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Today, we’re going to talk about the many ways couples can kiss each other during foreplay. It’s funny how we seem to take kissing for granted or how easily we can fall into a ‘routine’ with kissing.

One of my subscribers has written me sometime bask complaining that each time she and her husband kiss, there seems to be a ‘time limit’ and all-too-familiar routine that they follow. It goes like this: gentle kissing, followed by about 5 minutes of torrid kissing, and then intercourse!

She said that although she liked having sex with her husband it was becoming like a well-rehearsed routine… help!

Kissing is an Art

One of the best ways to prolong foreplay is to indulge in the many ways you and your partner can kiss each other. Here are a few tips for you.

The Bent Kiss is the type of kiss that’s meant for ‘deep tongue penetration’. It requires one partner to be taller or be at an elevated height than the other. For couples with differing heights, no problem but for couples of equal heights, try kissing on the stairs or while one of you is sitting on the table or sink. The objective is to have one bending over the other for maximum tongue playing.

The Upper Lip Kiss is when you kiss the upper lip of your partner, making your partner focus on your lower lip. This type of kiss allows for a different type of sensation and oh yes, a little sucking of the lips is allowed too!

The Upside-Down Kiss is literally kissing each other while upside-down. Don’t worry; you don’t need any form of acrobatics here. For example, initiate foreplay while your partner is watching TV. Touch his/her shoulders from behind the couch, give him/her a hug, bend over his/her head and start the kiss!

I just gave you two pointers here. Firstly, let your partner know you’re behind him/her! Think about it. How would you react if there was this big head appearing in your line of vision all of a sudden! Secondly, proceed gently, the ‘hug’ part lets your partner know you’re in a ‘tender, loving place’ and because he/she knows this, the kiss you give will be more welcome.

Also, do time your upside-down kiss well! There’s no point in initiating foreplay during the championship of the Super Bowl. You’re setting yourself up badly and you know it! Men, if you know she’s REALLY into Oprah, now is not the time for you to initiate this either.

Kiss and Lick (a.k.a. tongue bathing) is when you ensure that you kiss and lick your partner in ‘equal portions’. I’ve always said that many of us do not lick enough! So when you feel that your partner wants to immediately move on to lovemaking, delay it by engaging in some licking. Be sure to make the change subtle and to alternate between kissing and licking.

The Awakening Kiss is the kiss you want to do if you want to initiate foreplay in the morning or whenever your partner is sleeping. Personally, I call it the “Sleeping Beauty Kiss” because basically you start kissing your partner gently while he/she is still asleep. Don’t make the kiss too wet or too aggressive. Remember, you want your partner to awaken to ‘gentle, sensual pleasures’ and not to a rough assault.

Chocolate Kisses is by far one of my favorites. It is as simple as it sounds, pop a piece of chocolate in your mouth, melt it a bit and when it’s soft and gooey… go for the kiss! You can do some variations of this depending on what you and your partner love to eat. For example, peanut butter is good for most people as well as candy bars. Just be sure it’s something your partner loves to east as well!

There you go. Add these kiss variations into your foreplay repertoire and your partner will surely be surprised, delighted and excited by all these NEW things that are going on in your relationship.

Happy Kissing!

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Sarah

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Hi all!

It´s finally 2008, I´m so excited about 2008.

Today I´ll give you some tips to spend a VERY sensual evening with your partner.

It´s called “lights… camera… action!”

Because the idea is to take advantage of the technology we have today (such as digital cameras) to enjoy some sexy moments together.

So let´s get started!

1. Grab your video camera and make your own porno movie together. I recommend creating a title for the movie and a story. Don´t just have sex in front of a camera! Create a story first, and then act it…

2. Get a few costumes to make your porno movie even more sensual. For example, try roles like: CEO of a company, secretary, soldier, prostitute, etc.

3. Another great technique is to videotape yourselves having sex. Just have sex as usual. And then watch the movie together to see what you both like and what you´re doing wrong. (It will help both of you improve your sex skills!)

4. Finally I recommend preparing a romantic dinner together, grab a bottle of red wine, a few candles and… enjoy your sensual movies together!

Enjoy!

You may be surprised to find out that inside the mind of your significant other are plenty of steamy sex fantasies she’s probably never told you about but that’s she’s secretly dying to get a chance to act out. Can you imagine the night of wild sex the two of you could have after acting out just one of these fantasies? You’d both end up experiencing a night you’d never forget!

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But how do you get her to open up about her fantasies? That’s the tricky part because women don’t want to give away too much of her secret, sexual selves because we’re afraid of being condemned by the men in our lives. We don’t want them to think our fantasies are weird or that we’re slutty or anything like that.

You can try sharing your sexual fantasies with her and seeing if she’s willing to open about hers, but if that doesn’t work you can share some possibilities and see which ones get the biggest reaction from her. She doesn’t have to say it’s her fantasy but she can give the two of you permission to try it.

Here are some ideas:

The Groupie & the Guitarist

Lots of women spent their teenage years fantasizing about the guys of their favorite band. They’d see this hot guy on stage playing music they loved and feeling as if he was doing all of that just for her. And she’d wish she could get backstage just to show him how much she loved his music.

The good news for you is that in this fantasy you’re going to be that hot musician and she’s going to be the willing groupie who’s ready to do just about anything you ask, especially performing oral sex. Make sure to dress in your most impressive rock star attire and have the music for the band she used to fantasize about playing in the background to create the right vibe in the bedroom.

The Stranger

Sure women want to have sex with guys they love and care about, but that doesn’t mean we don’t fantasize about meeting a stranger and going home with me to experience a night of incredible, nameless, and no-strings attached fun. The problem is many women would have a hard time making this one happy for real.

So you can make it happen instead. Go separately to a bar. Both of you dance and mingle with other people for a little while before meeting for the “first time.” After a little flirting and suggestive behavior, the two of you can head right outside to the car and have a good time right there in the parking lot or lock yourselves in the bar’s restroom for a little fun. It feels dangerous and that makes the whole thing even hotter.

Being Aroused by Authority Figures

There’s a good chance you’ve woman has had more than an innocent crush on at least one authority figure in her life. It might have been a teacher, a police officer, a fireman, even a politician, but the important thing she was turned on by his position of power over her. If you can find out who she couldn’t think of without envisioning a steamy encounter, then you’ll know exactly how to make this fantasy work.

Let’s say her fantasy involves a teacher. You can be the teacher who makes her stay after – not to punish her but to give her your own special reward for being such a good student. If you have a desk that could be used a prop in your fun then that’s even better. After all, if you bend her over most desks she’ll be in just the right position for whatever “reward” you have in mind.

Other women fantasize about getting it on with a police officer. You can act this one out, too, even if you don’t have access to a uniform. Make sure to frisk her slowly and rub your hands up and down her entire body, as well as between her thighs and over her breasts. If you happen to have a set of handcuffs (and a key) then they can be excellent props, too.

Try suggesting one of these sexy fantasies to your significant other and see what she says. If she’s up for it, then have a good time and reap the benefits of an incredible night of ecstasy neither of you will soon forget.

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