I had the most terrrrrific night! My honey and I definitely had a blast playing different kinds of lovers’ games, and of course… it made us sooo horny! And so sitting here, I was thinking of sharing what we’ve been up to last night. Ready?

Strip Chocolate

Snakes and Ladders are out! Say hello to strip chocolate instead. Now I really don’t think I have to explain further what it truly means. After all, doesn’t the game sound raunchy enough already? Indeed, it is. Sitting here makes me warm all over again.

But anyway, for the uninitiated, strip chocolate can be one of the most sensual and delicious games you can ever play. Never mind if it messes up every corner of your household. For this game, you need 2 chocolate body frosting jars, dice, a game board, 25 choco cards, and 2 paint brushes. Each of you can take turns rolling the dice, which will end in you choosing either a dare (which can be pretty boring actually), to strip (this is the best part), or paint an artsy design on any part of your partner’s body (the exposed part of course) using the chocolate body frosting. Don’t forget to say “Yummy” after!

Here’s a twist to this game: If you don’t mind being ‘sexy’ with other couples, find a pair that’s into a bit of kinkiness. Basically, choose to paint a chocolate design on someone’s body, but YOU don’t get to lick it off… somebody else has to do it. I guarantee that the sexual tension in the room will be sky high!

Truth or Dare

If strip chocolate wasn’t daring enough for you, try The Truth or Dare Chocoholics game. It’s a dessert game for adults that encourage you to express your innermost sexual desires to your partner. (What else can possibly be a great aphrodisiac than very vivid imagination?)

In this game, a spinning bottle will determine whether the person who has been chosen by it shall go for truth or settle for dare. The entire package also includes chocolate body frosting as well as soft brushes, just in case you’d like to create romantic images all over your woman’s body… and then lick it off of course.

Saucy Dining Experience

If you have played mystery games before, then this wouldn’t come as a great surprise. But Saucy Dining is more than just solving crimes. Actually, it’s totally different. It is a dinner party–themed game, where all of the recipes are made from aphrodisiacs! And apart from simply savoring the sexual desires that the food will bring, there’s another twist to this game. You and your partner really have to play with the food and each other!

Here’s an example, asparagus is a known aphrodisiac right? So… instead of just eating the asparagus off the plate, place one between hear breasts… and then eat it!

Tequila Body Shots

This is, by far, the easiest and simplest aphrodisiac game I can ever think of… yet super sexy! Alcohol isn’t really an aphrodisiac, but you know what they say, when you’re intoxicated, you can possibly do anything!

Plus, with alcohol, blood rushes through your veins so fast that you want to release all of your sexual emotions right away. And because there’s a tendency that you’ll get drunk, we both prefer to do this at the comfort of our own home. After all, all you need is a bottle of tequila, some salt, and some lime.

So here’s what you do: put some salt on your woman’s body, lick the slat off, drown a shot of tequila and follow up with a piece of lime. Easy! The trick of course is to be ‘creative’ with where you put the salt on her body. I personally love it when my man licks salt of my lips, wrist, inner arm, and between my breasts!

Just do this game with a bit of moderation ok? Tequila is also notoriously known as a ‘knockout drink’. That is, you guys can easily get drunk without you realizing it. One minute, you’re up and happy and then bang! you’re throwing up everywhere! And this, my friends, ruins every chance of you getting laid tonight.

So are you having a difficult time having fun in your sex life? Choose any one of these sexy games and their aphrodisiac props, and tell me which one gives you the most laughter, the highest passion pull, and leads to the hottest sex!

Enjoy!

Sarah

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Today, we’re going to talk about the many ways couples can kiss each other during foreplay. It’s funny how we seem to take kissing for granted or how easily we can fall into a ‘routine’ with kissing.

One of my subscribers has written me sometime bask complaining that each time she and her husband kiss, there seems to be a ‘time limit’ and all-too-familiar routine that they follow. It goes like this: gentle kissing, followed by about 5 minutes of torrid kissing, and then intercourse!

She said that although she liked having sex with her husband it was becoming like a well-rehearsed routine… help!

Kissing is an Art

One of the best ways to prolong foreplay is to indulge in the many ways you and your partner can kiss each other. Here are a few tips for you.

The Bent Kiss is the type of kiss that’s meant for ‘deep tongue penetration’. It requires one partner to be taller or be at an elevated height than the other. For couples with differing heights, no problem but for couples of equal heights, try kissing on the stairs or while one of you is sitting on the table or sink. The objective is to have one bending over the other for maximum tongue playing.

The Upper Lip Kiss is when you kiss the upper lip of your partner, making your partner focus on your lower lip. This type of kiss allows for a different type of sensation and oh yes, a little sucking of the lips is allowed too!

The Upside-Down Kiss is literally kissing each other while upside-down. Don’t worry; you don’t need any form of acrobatics here. For example, initiate foreplay while your partner is watching TV. Touch his/her shoulders from behind the couch, give him/her a hug, bend over his/her head and start the kiss!

I just gave you two pointers here. Firstly, let your partner know you’re behind him/her! Think about it. How would you react if there was this big head appearing in your line of vision all of a sudden! Secondly, proceed gently, the ‘hug’ part lets your partner know you’re in a ‘tender, loving place’ and because he/she knows this, the kiss you give will be more welcome.

Also, do time your upside-down kiss well! There’s no point in initiating foreplay during the championship of the Super Bowl. You’re setting yourself up badly and you know it! Men, if you know she’s REALLY into Oprah, now is not the time for you to initiate this either.

Kiss and Lick (a.k.a. tongue bathing) is when you ensure that you kiss and lick your partner in ‘equal portions’. I’ve always said that many of us do not lick enough! So when you feel that your partner wants to immediately move on to lovemaking, delay it by engaging in some licking. Be sure to make the change subtle and to alternate between kissing and licking.

The Awakening Kiss is the kiss you want to do if you want to initiate foreplay in the morning or whenever your partner is sleeping. Personally, I call it the “Sleeping Beauty Kiss” because basically you start kissing your partner gently while he/she is still asleep. Don’t make the kiss too wet or too aggressive. Remember, you want your partner to awaken to ‘gentle, sensual pleasures’ and not to a rough assault.

Chocolate Kisses is by far one of my favorites. It is as simple as it sounds, pop a piece of chocolate in your mouth, melt it a bit and when it’s soft and gooey… go for the kiss! You can do some variations of this depending on what you and your partner love to eat. For example, peanut butter is good for most people as well as candy bars. Just be sure it’s something your partner loves to east as well!

There you go. Add these kiss variations into your foreplay repertoire and your partner will surely be surprised, delighted and excited by all these NEW things that are going on in your relationship.

Happy Kissing!

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Sarah

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One of the ways a woman gives herself a relaxing treat is by soaking in a long, hot bath so you can take this opportunity to really give her a treat by preparing a bath for her. Of course, with other ‘extra treats’ as only you can provide.

How to Prepare a ‘Proper’ Bath for Her

No guys, a bath is not just filling the tub with hot water and pouring some bubble bath solution in it. If you’re going to do this, do it good and create the right ambiance for her.

First, close the windows and blinds and submerge the whole bathroom in darkness. Next, light some candles. They can be scented or not depending on what you use for the… scented oil you want to place on the burner or oil diffuser.

So for example, if you’re using vanilla oil on the oil diffuser, don’t use strawberry-scented candles as the heady, super sweet smells will most likely give you both a headache. Aim for one scent or like what’s mentioned above, use non-scented candles if you’re going to burn scented oils.

Also, don’t scrimp on the candles ok? The more, the merrier!

Next, put on some soothing music and make sure it’s not too loud or too soft. To test this, turn the music on and go into the bathroom and close the door a bit. Check if the music level is just right.

Next, make sure everything you need is within reach. It’s not good if you break the sexual massage all the time by running out of the bathroom! Plus, it’s not good for the overall warm temperature in the bathroom. Just put everything you need on a tray and set this on the toilet or on a small chair.

Don’t forget a few edible treats. A glass of wine or champagne and a platter of crackers and cheese are sexy and will make you both last long during the sexual massage.

Sexual Massage Moves in the Bath

For starters, let her soak in the bath for about 5 to 10 minutes just to loosen her tight muscles and wracked nerves. Don’t join her in the bath just yet.

Start sexually massaging her while you’re still outside the tub. Sit on the edge or pull up a chair and use a wooden massage roller and move this along her body.

You can also position yourself at the top edge of the tub so you can massage her head. Slip your hands under her shoulders and then draw them up and out. A variation of this step is to pull your hands along the underside of the head, with your fingers against the back of the neck.

Feel free to shampoo her hair too. The pressure of your hands on her scalp in combination with the soft suds of the shampoo will feel great. Besides, this is the beauty of a sexual massage in the bathroom, no cares for the all the water and soap that might spill on the floor.

Now, without breaking your massage strokes, climb into the bathtub and join her. Sit behind her with her back to yours (sort of like spoon to spoon). Start massaging her shoulders and work your way to her lower back. And now comes the best part… massaging her front.

Start by reaching over and cupping her breasts (gently!). You can use the soap suds or better yet, put more soap gel on your hands and start massaging her breasts as if you were trying to create a lot of lather!

Tease her by massaging her breasts, moving to her shoulders, going back to her breasts, going down and rubbing her stomach, back to hear breasts again. Each time, be a bit more daring and go lower and lower her front. For instance, just massage or ‘clean’ her belly button with your finger and then go back to her breasts before going down to her pubic area.

Here’s a naughty tip for you: unless your woman has gone Brazilian (i.e., has had all her pubic hair shaved off) you can try ‘shampooing’ her hair down there! Simply apply the same strokes you would as if you were washing her hair.

As a climax to this hot tub sexual massage, you may go ahead and insert your finger in her ‘sweet spot’. Remember, this should be part of the sexual massage and should not be seen as the sexual act itself so be gentle while you finger her. The objective is not to make her come but to simply ‘connect’ with that special place as well. Good luck!

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This may come as a shock to you but sex is really pretty boring IF you end up following a routine. So how do you avoid this? Don’t be afraid to use your imagination! That is why most people say that the brain – not the genitals – is the most important sex organ.

And when you use your imagination, it’s equally important to apply your ‘naughty thoughts’ on your woman’s erogenous zones. Erogenous zones are those unique places in her body that generate sexual arousal when stimulated. And so if you know her erotic zones and apply your lustful imagination on them, you can make having sex with her a whole-body experience instead of just engaging in sex that’s limited to her genitals.

Erogenous zones are also important to know when you are giving her a sexual massage!

Know Her ‘Hot Buttons’

So do you know your woman’s sweet sex spots? Here’s a quick rundown of what they may likely be and what you can do to it during a sexual massage.

Her Breasts.

Ok, her breasts may not be a big erogenous zone secret for you but do you know how to handle them properly during a sexual massage? Most women find men too rough when it comes to fondling their breasts. And more so during sexual massage! So what do you do?

First of all, remember that the goal of a sexual massage is to de-stress while heightening sexual desire. So the general rule is to handle her body with TLC (tender loving care).

When it comes to her breasts, this is what you should do during your sexual massage session: avoid putting your whole hand over her breast. Using your index fingers, lightly press on her nipples as you would press a sensitive buzzer. First use dry fingers, then lick your index fingers and push down again.

The fact that she does not feel anything except your index finger on her nipple will send shivers through her body! And because you’re not touching her anywhere else (avoid any other body contact), her body is still in total relaxation (while her mind is already advancing towards sex).

Now, after about 10 ‘finger presses’, very lightly lick her nipple. Do not overdo this, just give her butterfly licks. After about 10 licks on each breast, stop and go to other hot zones.

Her Armpit.

Another erogenous zone is her armpit. Lick this during the sexual massage and she will feel delirious and lustful! To make sure that this is not unpleasant for you. Prepare a wet, hot towel before you start the sexual massage and use it to wipe her armpit before you start licking gently.

Do the ‘Dip’

From her upper torso, gently move towards sexually massaging her by doing “The Dip”. Put her arms above her head then position your arms under her shoulder (as if you were embracing her in bed). This position will ‘open’ her body to you. Breathe warmly against her collarbone, kiss the side of each breast and then position your tongue between her breasts.

From this position, lick her all the way down, passing her stomach, belly button, belly and then ending with a quick ‘dip’ in her genitals!

Her Foot.

This is the proper position when you start focusing on her feet: have her bend her knees and spread her legs a bit. This vulnerable position will already bring images of sex to her mind. You then kneel between her legs and lift one of her legs so that you can massage her foot. Put a lot of warm, massage oil on your hands and then slowly knead her feet. At the end of your massage, breathe against the sole of her feet. Your warm breath will both relax and sexually stimulate her.

Her Toes.

Toes are often neglected erogenous zones! The proper way to sexually massage toes is this: clean off any oil on and between her toes with a soft, wet and warm towel. Hold her big toe, run your thumb against its sole (out a bit of pressure) and follow through with a quick like. Do this for each toe. The next step is to slowly and seductively suck each toe!

Her Butt.

Have your woman lie on her back. Put some warm oil on your hands and gently massage her ass, kneading lightly. After this, progress to kissing them and licking them. And then just when she’s so relaxed, comfortable or maybe even about to drift off, part her buttocks and lick her anus. This will send her a sexual charge like no other!

Proceed to licking her crack and when you notice that she’s getting too excited. Turn her over and let the love-making begin!

The fact that you’re bodies are both slick from the massage oil and glistening in the dark makes love-making even more exciting.

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I know you don’t need convincing that lasting longer in bed is a great idea. But please be aware that you can’t experience the kind of ecstatic wave you´ve always wanted if you rush headlong towards orgasm or try to hold yourself back.

You have to learn to RELAX into intense pleasure in order to go higher and higher.

Guys argue all the time about their confused idea that Tantra means not cumming. It doesn’t have to be that way or any way.

When you learn to go higher and higher, the simultaneous orgasm with your partner will be incredible. More importantly, when the ecstasy of the ride is greater than the brief spurt at the end, you may never want to cum again.

But won’t it be nice when it’s YOUR choice and you can decide to squirt or not as the mood strikes you?

The Disadvantages of When Your Penis is the Boss

Maybe it’s not needed anymore. Maybe the mere idea of lasting longer in bed and experiencing the pleasures of sex for HOURS and not mere minutes is enough to convince you that ‘cumming on command’ is better than cumming involuntarily.

But in the slight chance that you’re still not convinced, here’s what you LOSE cumming too quickly…

- Many women are multi-orgasmic because their energy isn’t depleted by orgasm. You don’t want to cum and be ‘finished’ and leave her yearning for more do you?

- Many men’s erections don’t spring back to life after cumming. For older men, it sometimes takes a couple days to recover their ability to stay hard for long. Sex therapists call this the “refractory period”. So having an orgasm without ejaculating lets you repeat lovemaking as quickly and often as you want.

- Many men release lots of energy when they cum which makes them distant, sleepy, and exhausted. Don’t cum and you stay energetic throughout the night!

- Many men lose the desire to continue making love when they blow their wad, suddenly losing that closeness and intimacy women crave. Some describe it as if a power switch was turned off.

- Many men shut down not just physically, but emotionally and mentally as well, cutting off the communion at multiple levels that this e-course can help you achieve.

The Benefits of ‘Cumming-on-Command’

And just to leave you with the positive aspects, by not cumming you can…

- Experience HOURS of orgasmic pleasure instead of just a few seconds of intense release.

- Undergo continuous ecstasy at its peak throughout your whole body.

- Stay connected with your partner longer, deeper, and at various levels.

- Keep your entire body energized. (The Taoists believe that retaining your semen is highly nourishing and the key to longevity!)

- Fully satisfy your partner’s often unfulfilled sexual desires.

- Satisfy multiple partners one after the other without a break.

- Promote health, vigor, and mental clarity by retaining your energy.

- Achieve bigger, stronger, longer-lasting orgasms when you finally choose to cum.

Wow! Just going over the list turns me on!

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Sarah

“Tantra does not require “believing in” something, or even “agreeing with” anything. There is nothing to accept on blind faith. The validity of Tantric teachings and practices lies in our own experience, our own inner process. We don’t have to take anyone’s word for anything. No one is asking us to believe anything. There is no dogma. The only way we can truly practice Tantra is to give up our concepts of what we think is happening and see what is actually happening. Through the process of Kundalini awakening we open up to inner or intuitive knowledge. The Shakti stimulates insights and breakthroughs. We practice Tantra and relate these practices to our day-to-day life. We become more fulfilled and powerful.” —– Gurumayi Chidvilasananda

Supreme Bliss Tantra

Supreme Bliss is the zenith of sexual ecstasy that transforms Kundalini, or orgasmic energy, into expanded consciousness. Tantra believes that all energy is life force energy. Supreme Bliss Tantra is the modern system of personal transformation based on the ancient Eastern spiritual path that uses Kundalini energy practices to…

- Deepen love, intimacy and ecstasy
- Extend lovemaking, and
- Create continuous full-body mind-altering Tantric Orgasms.

By opening your senses of the present moment, embracing all of life and all of your being, and focusing on pleasure as a divine gift, Supreme Bliss Tantra…

…heals your mind, body, and spirit, connects you passionately with your deeper self and your beloved, and immerses you deeply into the untold joys of sacred sexuality to reach cosmic peaks of pleasure making life an ecstatic journey in total communion with all that is. Wow! Can you see why I’m so jazzed about it?

Ancient Tradition Without Fear

The word Tantra comes from the roots “to expand, extend, and weave.” Tantrikas, adepts at Tantric practice, extend their awareness, heighten their sensitivity, expand their consciousness, and weave all the energies of life together to affirm joyous living.

Tantra emerged thousands of years ago in India, moving to China and Tibet as a grass-roots rebellion against the repressive hierarchical religions of the day. Back then, to even reach for enlightenment required lifetimes of denying desire and doing penance for past-life karma. Tantra opened the doors of spiritual evolution to everyone, regardless of their social status.

If you’re worried about what you’re getting yourself into, don’t. Tantra isn’t a religion based on faith, dogma, or right living. You don’t have to join, carry a card, cut your hair, or wear robes.

Since it’s not really a philosophy, it has no rules, qualifications, or requirements. There’s no code of behavior, no punishment for sin, and no pot of gold waiting for you in the afterlife at the end of the rainbow.

If you’re seeking inner peace, higher consciousness, a more fulfilling sex life with a new partner, or rekindling the earlier fire with a longtime mate, the erotic sacred wisdom of India and other Eastern cultures can help.

East Meets West

In the modern West, we stress the power of knowledge and thought. What you know determines what you can do. You measure success through hard work, accumulation material wealth, and caring for your relationship and family.

You reap physical pleasures, moments of happiness, and a high quality of living.

In the traditional East, the quality of inner life — not the process of living — was more important. Inner peace free from raging mind chatter was and is most important. Inner stillness free from the ravages of the pursuit of success and the fear of failure. Inner harmony free from relationship ups and downs by loving yourself most.

You reap Supreme Bliss by experiencing joy in every breath, every tree, every flower, every moment. Tantra is the bridge between the East and West — the path to the joy of the soul through full awareness of the physical world.

By learning to make love consciously, fully, spiritually, you transcend the outer school of hard knocks and grow into total acceptance of your inner self while living in the world.

In Tantra, sacred sex is a path, not an end.

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There are many tools a woman can use to increase her libido. There are many natural sex drive killers but if you understand these potential problems there are solutions. Below in this article we highlight problems and ways a woman can overcome these issues and increase her libido.

1. Relationship Issues

If there is any ill feeling towards a partner it has to be addressed. If an issue or conflict is left unresolved it will lead to a dampening of desire as can secrets or if you are emotionally upset for some reason.

When you are carrying negative feelings about a partner, your level of attraction for that person can wane dramatically an even in some severe cases never return. It can be as simple as a lack of appropriate hygiene, or something more complex, such as infidelity; whatever the case issues have to be addressed and dealt with before you can feel sexual again towards your partner.

Communication is the key to a good relationship. If you don’t talk to your partner, resentment will grow with you partner and eventually result in an all out conflict. If talking to one another doesn’t work then maybe it means trying a counsellor or therapist to move things in a positive direction.

If that doesn’t work then maybe it is time to see a sex therapist as there maybe problems that are deep rooted that even you are not aware of. I am afraid to say though if all else fails then it may just mean that a relationship has run its course and it is time to say goodbye. It maybe a sad moment but sex is an important part of your life and a relationship and you must enjoy it.

2. Body Complex

No one is ever one hundred percent satisfied with their own body as I have covered in other articles. It maybe those extra large love-handles or those bingo wings or maybe even an issue with your small breasts.

The truth is that to feel positive about sex then you must be happy with your own body. As I have said we all have imperfections (perceived or real) and it time to accept them and live with them. If you can’t then you may need to take some further action.

3. Getting Older

Age catches up with us all and does take a toll on our bodies. There is a loss of bone mass, susceptibility to illness, painful joints, grey hair, sagging flesh and the list goes on. Menopause and decreased testosterone (yes in women too) production are the reasons for decrease in libido but fear, anxiety and depression from aging can contribute too.

If you are going through the menopause, it is important that you understand the changes taking place in your own body. It may mean seeking out your doctor about treatment for the physical changes that are taking place and affecting the sex drive.

The use of Estrogens in any forms can increase blood flow to the vagina and increase arousal thus leading to increased desire. Hormone therapy that includes low dose androgens has been shown to be particularly effective at increasing low libido. There may even be something as easy as the use of lubricants to get an immediate effect if you are experiencing vaginal dryness.

4. Sexual Abuse

Those people that have been unfortunate to suffer sexual abuse can later then have a difficult time with physical intimacy. It is a natural reaction and it takes time and understanding for both the mind and boy to deal with these painful experiences, but there is little attention paid to our sexuality.

Please if this applies to you know that many people who have suffered sexual assault have gone on to have healthy and full sexual relationships. It takes time, patience, understanding and some counselling. This cannot be rushed and you must take your time and only become intimate when you are ready too! Never ever let anyone pressure you into something you feel uncomfortable about.

5. Medication

It is widely known that the effect of birth control pills (also when combined with oral contraceptives) leads to a lowered libido. The decreased androgen production or lowered testosterone levels can cause women to experience a lower libido and less vaginal lubrication.

There are other medications that also dampen desire such as tranquilisers, high blood pressure pills and mood stabilizer amongst many. It must also be noted that even mediation that isn’t anyway connected to sexual; arousal can have an adverse affect on sexual desire. When talking to your doctor about any new medication and finding that it may alter your libido it might be best to ask if there maybe a viable alternative.

Depression seems to be a part of modern life. If you are feeling down and cannot shake the feeling it may mean you have depression. If you feel this way then it maybe time to see you doctor. Depression will make many people listless, drowsy, sad, angry, upset and very emotional. Depression will have a very noticeable effect on libido. It is known that as many as seventy five percent of people with depression also suffer a lowered sex drive.

The very drugs that are used to treat depression (MAOI’s, SSRI’s and tricyclics) can also lead to sexual dysfunction, such as a delay in orgasm and lead to an adverse affect on the level of sexual desire.

There have been changes in the last few years that have given hope to people in this situation. There are drugs such as Viagra(r) with antidepressants. Then there may be the use of herbal remedies such a Ginkgo Bilboa, which is thought to help with lack of desire related to taking Paxil or other antidepressants. The there may also be Wellbutrin that has been shown to combat reduced sexual desire.

Please, though whatever you decide or look into always consult you doctor before any changing of medication or stopping your medications.

6. Medical Problems

There are many numbers of medical disorders that can lower libido such as a thyroid problem or hormone deficiency (especially in older people). A metabolic disorder; anything that adversely affects you metabolism (including an eating disorder, accident, trauma or illness) will obviously cause a lowered libido; it is also true to note that one in five American women have hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), more comely know as a low sex drive.

If you have ruled out all other reasons to why you have a low sex drive then consult you doctor. You may have a readily curable medical condition.

Conclusion

There isn’t such a thing as a normal libido we are all different and have different sex drives. If you feel frustrated by lack of sexual appetite, take it easy. . Your personal sense of normality is defined by how you feel about your sexuality and whether or not you’re happy with how you are expressing it.

If you are comfortable about your sexuality then congratulations; if however you feel that you may need a gentle push; then explore the remedies suggested here. There is though no miracle cure some of the suggestions here have worked for other people but may not work for you. It may just take time and patience. It may mean just going solo for a while with a sex toy or eating a piece of chocolate. Hey girls chocolates is an aphrodisiac after all!

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Sex Toy/Accessory: Handcuffs

Description:

Most of us are familiar with those two cold metal bracelets carried by the police around the country. Even if we’ve never worn them, we’ve certainly seen them at least on television and in the movies.

While some of the handcuffs available in erotic retail stores do closely resemble the police models, you can also find other types to play with as well. Leather handcuffs, furry handcuffs, different colored handcuffs – if you search around you can find almost anything you’d like to use.

How to Use It:

The best way to use handcuffs is to either trap your willing partner to the bed or to make sure he or she keeps their hands behind their back while you do whatever you want (within reason, of course) to them.

You can add in a blindfold for even more intense effects.

Why to Use It:

Losing control over what is going on can be a huge turn-on for some people. When they are handcuffed, their partner gets complete control over their pleasure, and this can lead to some amazing results. Imagine performing oral sex on your female partner while she’s handcuffed to the bed or handcuffing your man’s hands behind his back while you have sex with him. In fact, a pair of handcuffs can heat up even the most boring sexual positions in a flash.

Not to mention, if you or your partner even has a slight bondage fetish, a pair of handcuffs is a good way to begin exploring that world a little.

Purchasing Suggestions:

Avoid purchasing real metal handcuffs. Although some sex toys do sell these type of handcuffs or similar ones, they are not designed for comfort. The metal can also be very cold against the skin. You don’t want something to interfere with your or your partner’s pleasure.

Better choices are leather or fur handcuffs, particularly the ones which have comfortable lining. These feel more comfortable. Of course, these usually cost a little more, too.

Important Tip: Before using handcuffs or other types of bondage equipment, you should make sure you and your partner have agreed to do this. Have a code word ready that your partner can say in case things get uncomfortable and they want the game to stop.

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It is natural throughout life for a woman to experience changes in their libido. It can be like a rollercoaster ride. One minute your up and can get enough. The next minute you are down. There are many influences that can affect the libido of a woman. It can be anything from a change in lifestyle to a certain medicine that has been prescribed.

In tackling the issue of libido I have put together a list of the most universal reasons (and solutions) for a waning in a woman’s libido; it maybe possible to correct the circumstances with a few simple lifestyle changes.

A Note of Introduction

Libido/Sex Drive vs. Sexual Arousal

There’s a large difference between sexual desire and physical arousal: Desire (or libido) refers to your interest in sex, while arousal relates to your body’s physical response, such as vaginal lubrication or clitoral erection. There can be a relationship between a woman’s libido and sexual arousal as those women with a greater libido often find it easier to get aroused.

The opposite is also true with those women with a lower libido finding it much harder to get aroused. The whole idea then is to increase the sex drive and thus your body will respond by being aroused much easier.

Below we list nine reasons that may lower sex drive and suggest ways that may help you boost you libido.

1. Situation and Lifestyle

The older we women get the more responsibilities that we have to handle. When we were younger most of us had higher sex drives that can take as huge fall when we get older. The time between work, kids, friendships, hobbies and homemaking doesn’t leave much time for sex. Then when you find you have a little spare time often the last things you feel is sexual or in need of any sexual contact; women often just want to read a good book, watch some TV or catch up on a little sleep. It not that us ladies don’t want to have sex it has just some how become a low priority.

Ladies we must all remember that sex is a very important part of any adult relationship. It may mean you have to be a little practical and schedule sex into the calendar. This may sound a little funny but if that is the only way to make sure that you have a chance for lovemaking then it must be done.

Assign one or two nights a week when you spend quality romantic time with your partner. It time to kick things up a notch: For example take turns bringing something new into the bedroom. such as sex toy, illustrated book, video or technique.

The idea about scheduling tie together is so that you’re making a commitment and also allows you to get a mind set of what is going to happen. It gives you mind and body time to prepare and will help find it helps you when sexual arousal enters the equation as you will be more ready for it then coming in cold.

2. Mindset - Anxiety, Stress and Fear

Sex is the last ting on a woman’s mind when she is stressed, anxious or has some fears. It could be work related, a relationship issue, family or money problems and they can really lower drastically a woman’s libido.
How can any girl feel sexy when she has to worry about mortgage repayments. Fear and anxiety associated with sex itself can also cause problems.

In the modern world there are fears of STD’s or of getting pregnant, they all can affect the libido and lower he chances of having a rewarding sexual experience.

The way to conquer stress, fear and anxiety is to firstly ensure that the body is healthy. It is up to you to look after you body by eating right, drinking plenty of water, taking regular exercise or even practicing relaxation techniques such as yoga or meditation.

Listen girls, it may seem like hard work but if you are not doing it for your health then do it for your sex lives. The next step is to strengthen the mind by doing things you are good for you such as reading, doing a crossword, talking to friends, kids and your partner and writing in a journal. If you have a healthy body and mind you will become much more capable to deal with the problems in the bedroom.

If you’ve tried these methods and still feel that anxiety and fear are detrimental your libido, it may be time to seek qualified help. If you are secure with the thought, attempt to talk to a sex therapist. Otherwise a psychologist, life coach or marriage counsellor as they can help you feel better and enjoy sex more.

3. Routine and Boredom

It is easy to get stuck in a groove and familiarity can be a big libido killer. Many women’s ideal is to be in a monogamous relationship but after 20 years it is perfectly normal to be bored or uninspired by your partner. By this time you have tried most things and have ruled out or forgotten about anything you haven’t tried.

This can also apply to couples who have been dating for less than six months as they too can get into a sexual rut after the first flush of puppy love has gone away. It can end up with you using the missionary position every time you get it on like on a Monday, Wednesday and Saturday night. It is fine but everyone needs a bit of variety and spontaneity in their lives.

It is time now to get back to basics and to those sexual routes. Try to approach sex as a brand new experience and forget about everything that you like and don’t like. Approach you partner and talk about what you want to try in bed. It might be that you just need to introduce something new to the bedroom.

There are many ways to re-invigorate your sex life; buy a sex toy and use with your mate, watch sexy videos and try to recreate the scene, read or look through some illustrated sex guides. There maybe some initial embarrassment or unease with your new experiences together, but if you can keep an open mind you will soon find that your new found experiences lead to much more fun and satisfaction.

In Conclusion

Many women for the reasons given above suffer from lower sex drive. It happens to most women at some point in their lives. It maybe time to truly look at your lifestyle and make some tough decisions. Sex is a very important part of your life and any problems must be addressed.

It is time to analyse your life and make real and sufficient time to address your sexual needs. Then look at your routine and maybe spice things up with new and exciting appoaches agreed to by both you and your partner. It is time you took control of your life back.

Approach sex like it is your very first time and try to capture that old feeling. It is with experimentation that sex can become fresh again. This will make it exciting and thus you will want to have sex again.

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Pleasuring your partner is an important part of a great sex life. You definitely know that, right? Well, one of the best ways to pleasure her is by giving her a little selfless attention – that means doing something hot to make her feel amazing even when you’re not getting anything back . . . at least not at that moment.

I’m talking about oral sex or, in this case, cunnilingus.

The good news is that oral sex can be amazingly pleasurable for your partner. The bad news is a lot of guys just don’t know what their doing and that ruins the experience for both of partner. But you’re not going to be one of those guys.

Let’s look at some pointers to improve your oral sex aptitude.

Oral sex is one of those things guys have to pretty much learn how to do on their own. It’s not like driving a car where they can ask their dad for advice and it’s not even like vaginal sex which you learn how to do from watching a couple of X-rated films. You’re pretty much on your own with this one so let’s look at three techniques you can use to become outstanding in the oral sex department.

First, you’ve got to know how to move your tongue. The best analogy to describe this is a cat or a dog drinking water from a bowl. When they’re lapping up that water, their tongue is going in and out of their mouths pretty fast, right? Well, that’s the same type of movement you’re trying to achieve. Short and fast is the way to turn up the heat and rev up her clitoris.

Of course, using just “lapping” techniques won’t necessarily win you a prize in bed; you’ve got to know how to spice things up. After you use the first technique for a little bit, mix it up and try a rotation technique. Instead of moving your tongue in and out, keep it in and moving it a circular motion. This motion works amazingly well with the clitoris (circular motion also does the trick in vaginal intercourse, too) and can sometimes be just what she needs to push her over the top.

Now I know some of these cunnilingus sessions can last a pretty long time and a man’s tongue can get pretty tired (we do appreciate the effort though!), so when you start wearing down, give your tongue a break and try humming instead. That’s right – I said humming. Pick any tune you want and hum away but the trick is to keep your face in position. The vibration from your humming will travel up through her vagina and stimulate her clitoris. Basically, you’re becoming her own special vibrator.

Sometimes, guys, you just can’t do it alone. Now I’m not suggesting you bring in a friend, but I am suggesting you pack along a special surprise in your pocket for her: a sex toy. You can choose almost any type of sex you want, but keep in mind one thing: Where am I going to use it? If you don’t mind sharing your tongue space with a vibrator or dildo – and many guys don’t – then any of those choices are fine. My suggestion though is to invest in a toy designed specifically of anal stimulation. Even though your woman may frown on anal intercourse (especially if she’s had a bad experience), the truth is that stimulation in that region – when done correctly – can be pretty intense and can even lead to G-spot orgasms! Plus, if you’re pleasuring her in one area and your “friend” is pleasuring her in another, then your partner is definitely going to be one happy lady, especially after a few minutes.

And you’re likely to be happy, too. A satisfied woman is very likely to turn right around and repay you for your efforts. Maybe with a little fellatio. After all, what man doesn’t love getting oral sex?

While we’re on the subject of oral sex though, I want to mention safety. I’m not trying to kill the mood but you’ll have a lot more fun if you’re protected than if you end up seriously regretting your actions a few months down the road if you know what I mean. While oral sex won’t cause pregnancy, you and your partner can still transmit diseases that way. It may not be romantic but you need to invest in dental dam which covers your teeth and tongue during the act so you don’t exchange bodily fluids during the act. Trust me, you’ll be thankful you did.

Now go out there and start pleasuring your woman with amazing cunnilingus . . . safely.

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Ok “boys”, lets get started with today´s naughty fantasies.

Important: I said FANTASIES!

It´s not legal to have sex outdoors in most countries, so let´s just fantasize together darling.

Here are some of my hottest Outdoor Sex Fantasies:

1. Get a blow up pool and enjoy a moment together in your backyard;

2. Go camping with close friends, and get a sleeping bag for 2 (for hot sex while your friends are sleeping);

3. Try having sex in a hammock;

4. Go to the closest beach, and try a “salt water” sex experience;

5. Rent a kayak (or similar), go far away from the beach and have hot sex;

6. Try something on in a store together, and enjoy wild sex in the dressing room;

7. Take your woman to a restaurant (outdoors) and tell her to give you a blow job (under the table cloth);

8. Invite your closest friends to a picnic, and have sex in the car while they´re getting the BBQ ready!

Now it´s YOUR turn.

Please take a moment to write your fantasies in the “Leave a Comment” section!

Kisses!

Sarah

Hi all!

I´m so excited!

It´s 2008… a year that will be LIFE-CHANGING for you.

How do I know?

I “just know”!

But remember, 2008 WILL be a life-changing year ONLY if you make the right DECISIONS.

In order to change, you need to decide first…

So here´s my advice:

1. Make a list of all the BIG changes you want to make in your life (the BIG ones!);

2. Decide which BIG decisions you have to make in order to achieve them;

3. Take action!

Please PROMISE ME that 2008 will be a LIFE-CHANGING year (it´s up to you!)

I want to wish you a VERY happy (and VERY sensual) new year!

Love and kisses!

Sarah Torbay

Let´s be honest: The key to seduction is to understand where feelings of lust, desire, and attraction originate in the woman’s brain.

You see, our brain has evolved over millions of years, through a series of stages each one added upon the last.

The first, most primal part of our brain is the brain stem, which is the oldest and smallest region in the human brain. Our brain stem controls various processes such as breathing, our heartbeat, and the flight or fight response.

The second part of our brain, wrapped around the basic brain stem and having evolved later, is the limbic brain. The limbic brain is responsible for women’s core emotional experiences including lust, desire, and attraction. Lacking language, the limbic brain is both impulsive and instinctual. It’s sometimes called the pleasure center because sexual stimuli that we experience pass directly to it.

Later, over millions of years, layers of more sophisticated reasoning have been added on top of the limbic brain. The newest part of our brain, the neo-cortex, is considered the rational brain that provides logic and thought, allowing for speaking, planning and critical judgment.

To understand you will need to learn how to directly stimulate the limbic brain of a woman and bypass her neo-cortex, which rationalizes reasons to hesitate or shut down sexual urges or judge you based on your looks or social status in an effort to not appear like a “slut.”

In other words, by dealing exclusively with a woman’s limbic brain, you’re directly communicating to where her feelings of lust and mating begin rather than communicating in a way that triggers resistance and critical judgment in her.

That’s why an unattractive or financially limited man can still create attraction in women by sexually stimulating their limbic brain through Nonverbal Sexual Cuing.

In summary you will need to learn:

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- How to play your voice like a musical instrument to create sexual rapport through vibrant resonance, sexy tempo, and smooth tonality to make women fall in love with your voice as soon as you start talking to her.

- The difference between the smile “look” and the smile “act” for creating sexual rapport and connection in an intimate encounter and from across a room.

- The three secrets of body language to make your woman instantly comfortable around you.

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Premature ejaculation or PE is generally acknowledged as one highly feared sexual problem among men. It usually has far-reaching consequences, often affecting to a certain degree the relationship that a man has with his sexual partner.

Medical practitioners, including sex therapists, often give varying premature ejaculation definitions, usually disagreeing on what actually constitutes PE. Nevertheless, the general agreement is that, as a dysfunction, it occurs in men either on a consistent basis or during particular periods of their lives. Either way, when premature ejaculation takes place much too often and begins to severely affect relationships, appropriate solutions need to be explored.Premature ejaculation simply refers to the act of ejaculating a bit too early, approximately several minutes after sexual intercourse has commenced, and either before there is penile penetration or shortly afterwards. Most men feel that the dysfunction is something that they cannot really control, particularly among younger men who naturally lack sufficient sexual experiences. Older men generally have more control over their ejaculations, but during certain periods in their lives, especially when they encounter problems of every kind, they can also experience premature ejaculations.

The dysfunction is largely treatable, but most men, sometimes even women, are either not aware of it or are simply too shy to bring it out in the open and discuss it with a trained professional for fear that they will be ridiculed or mocked. Having the courage to admit that one has premature ejaculation issues is usually the first important step to treating the dysfunction. From here, the next step is to seek medical help so the causes of the dysfunction can be properly identified and the most appropriate treatment can be recommended.

A number of medical studies reveal that the dysfunction is actually learned or conditioned, often starting among younger men who, because of fears of getting caught, try to speed up the process of sexual intercourse. This causes them to ejaculate much too early, and this behavior tends to persist over time, resulting to consistent premature ejaculations, even as the men grow in age.

If PE then is learned or conditioned, then the general assumption is that it can likewise be unlearned or unconditioned. This is usually the goal of most premature ejaculation treatment programs. By and large, these programs are effective, especially when conducted under the supervision of a trained and certified sex therapist. However, a number of men find the sessions too long at times, not to mention the fact that complete strangers having the same problem are also taking part in the program. When these factors are present, patients usually try to explore other avenues to resolve their PE problems. Preferably, they look for solutions that are quick and easy to follow like using certain sex pills.

Using special pills to address premature ejaculation problems in men is not an entirely new thing. Men have been making use of them for years as they offer faster solutions to their PE concerns. Even certified medical doctors recommend these so-called sex pills to men suffering from a variety of erectile dysfunctions like premature ejaculation simply because they find them to be largely effective. What makes these sex pills such a potent premature ejaculation weapon can be traced to the ingredients that they contain. Many of these have chemical contents, such as those found in medications classified as anti-depressants. Popular brands are collectively called SSRI’s or Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors.

Largely used in treating cases of depression, SSRI’s have recently been found to be effective as well in addressing premature ejaculation concerns, although this particular healing property of the drugs appears to be more of a normal side effect rather than anything else. Nevertheless, various doctors found them to be quite useful and have started prescribing them to affected men.

Other noted sex pills, meanwhile, contain purely herbal ingredients that are known to have sex-enhancing qualities. Herbal ingredients contained in several sex pills have the basic advantage of being pure and natural, and ostensibly carry no adverse side effects, unlike their chemically based counterparts.

Herbal-based sex drugs have recently gained immense popularity as more and more people are beginning to realize the benefits that one can get from taking pure and unadulterated substances. Even the medical world, which previously was hesitant in making use of natural herbs to treat certain human dysfunctions like premature ejaculation, has begun to realize the true value of herbal plants.

Several herbal-based sex drugs are now out in the market, competing for a still generally untapped market, and the leader of the pack is Satibo™. This particular sex-enhancement pill boasts of having all-natural ingredients, basically extracts of various herbal plants that have long been known to help man gain more power sexually and even get rid of common sexual dysfunctions like premature ejaculation.

Specifically, extracts from plants like the Cuscuta seed and the Ginkgo Biloba have been included in every bottle of Satibo™ along with other popular herbal products, making for a truly potent sex pill. Cuscuta seed happens to be particularly effective in addressing premature ejaculation concerns, while the Ginkgo Biloba is said to be capable of increasing blood flow in the vascular region that can ostensibly help improve penile erections.

Satibo™ happens to be just one of many all-natural-based sex enhancing drugs currently trying to attract the attention of concerned men, but it claims to be the safest and the most effective among other similar brands. A visit to its official website, Satibo-USA.com should effectively tell if its claims are true.

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The famous sex researchers, William Masters and Virginia Johnson, were the first to outline the four stages of sexual response in human beings. These stages apply to both men and women, but each gender experiences the stages differently. Men typically race through the stages faster than women do, but that’s only on average. In some situations, women may be ready for orgasm much faster than a man. We’ll look at each of the stages as they occur in women and we’ll tell you what signs to watch for so you’ll be able to determine when your partner is ready for the next stage.

Stage 1 – Excitement

This is one of the easiest stages to reach for both men and women. A woman can become excited just by smelling your cologne or having your hand brush against her breasts. She can become excited by fantasizing about sexual encounters or by flirting with you during dinner. In fact, during the average date, women may become excited ten to fifteen times. Most of those times do not lead to the next level, however.

The female body responds to this stage in very specific ways. Let’s go through some of those physical signs of excitement:

• Her nipples become erect
• Her vagina starts becoming lubricated
• Her clitoris begins to swell and grow larger
• The inner parts of her vagina begin to expand
• Her breasts may even increase in size if she becomes highly aroused

These are not the only physical signs, but these are probably the ones you or her may notice. Notice that during this early stage, her vagina is already becoming lubricated. Many men have the mistaken notion that this is a sign that a woman is ready to engage in intercourse. That is not the case. A lubricated vagina only means a woman is aroused. All of these signs do suggest, however, that her body is preparing for the possibility of sex.

Stage 2 – Plateau

This second stage does not occur as frequently as the arousal or excitement stage. In fact, most incidents of arousal never reach this level. So when does a woman reach this level? Well, she will require more physical stimulation. Foreplay, for example, will help her move to this stage, so does increased fantasizing. During this stage, sexual tension inside her body is growing.

This stage is also accompanied by more physical signs. A few of those signs are listed below:

• Breasts may increase noticeably in size
• The vagina swells and the vaginal opening begins to narrow
• The clitoris becomes more erect
• Her heart beat may increase noticeably
• The color of the labia minora will change from pink to either red or wine-color

This final physical sign is very important. Researchers have found that if the color-change does not occur, then women rarely have an orgasm.

About one-half to three-fourths of women also experience what is termed a “sex flush” on parts of their body. The increased blood flow to the skin sometimes gives the appearance of a flush over the chest or other parts of the body.

During the plateau stage, the woman’s body is becoming ready for intercourse. Only near the end of this stage is she physically ready for vaginal intercourse.

Stage 3 – Orgasm

All of those women who fake their orgasms end up continually jumping from the second to the fourth stage of sexual response. After her body is truly ready for intercourse and if she is receiving the proper stimulation – usually clitoral – then it does not take long for her to reach the third stage.

Below are some of the physical effects your partner will experience during this stage. Some of these should be noticeable by you and a couple are impossible for her to fake, so if you really want to know whether you are making her climax or not you just need to pay attention to the physical signs.

• Muscle contractions – Intense muscle contractions through the pelvic area will occur during the orgasm. A woman can have three to fifteen of these contractions depending on the strength of her orgasm. She may also experience muscle contractions in other parts of the body as well.
• Most women’s bodies become temporarily rigid at the highest point of their orgasm. This lasts for only a moment, but its something you may notice.
• The “sex flush” is another indicator of orgasm. At this stage, it becomes brighter and more noticeable. It may also have spread to other areas of her body.

Another tell-tale sign of orgasm in some women is ejaculation. Some women do ejaculate after an orgasm.

Although you won’t be able to see this, an orgasm can be detected by looking at a woman’s brain wave patterns. There is a clear difference.

Stage 4 – Resolution

This is an interesting stage because what happens during it depends on what did not happen before or what is continuing to happen. For example, if a woman does successfully complete the third stage then she may be able to have multiple orgasms.

If a woman does not have an orgasm, then her body will begin to return to normal but it will take longer. Many women report physical discomfort in the pelvic area during this process.

You should also keep in mind that after an orgasm a woman’s breasts and nipples will be incredibly sensitive. In fact, they can be so sensitive that touching them is uncomfortable for her.

After the last orgasm, the “sex flush” will disappear.

Also, your partner may experience heavy sweating, rapid heart beating, and/or heavy breathing.

The resolution stage marks the end of the cycle for women.

Using The Right Techniques And Positions

Now that you understand the four stages of female response, it´s crucial that you learn the right techniques and positions.

Why?

Simple: because if you don´t use the right techniques and positions you will most likely skip one of the stages. (There are proven techniques and positions to make the female orgasm literally inevitable!)

And today, I will share this techniques and positions with you!

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