Strip Chocolate

Snakes and Ladders are out! Say hello to strip chocolate instead. Now I really don’t think I have to explain further what it truly means. After all, doesn’t the game sound raunchy enough already? Indeed, it is. Sitting here makes me warm all over again.

But anyway, for the uninitiated, strip chocolate can be one of the most sensual and delicious games you can ever play. Never mind if it messes up every corner of your household. For this game, you need 2 chocolate body frosting jars, dice, a game board, 25 choco cards, and 2 paint brushes. Each of you can take turns rolling the dice, which will end in you choosing either a dare (which can be pretty boring actually), to strip (this is the best part), or paint an artsy design on any part of your partner’s body (the exposed part of course) using the chocolate body frosting. Don’t forget to say “Yummy” after!

Here’s a twist to this game: If you don’t mind being ‘sexy’ with other couples, find a pair that’s into a bit of kinkiness. Basically, choose to paint a chocolate design on someone’s body, but YOU don’t get to lick it off… somebody else has to do it. I guarantee that the sexual tension in the room will be sky high!

Truth or Dare

If strip chocolate wasn’t daring enough for you, try The Truth or Dare Chocoholics game. It’s a dessert game for adults that encourage you to express your innermost sexual desires to your partner. (What else can possibly be a great aphrodisiac than very vivid imagination?)

In this game, a spinning bottle will determine whether the person who has been chosen by it shall go for truth or settle for dare. The entire package also includes chocolate body frosting as well as soft brushes, just in case you’d like to create romantic images all over your woman’s body… and then lick it off of course.

Saucy Dining Experience

If you have played mystery games before, then this wouldn’t come as a great surprise. But Saucy Dining is more than just solving crimes. Actually, it’s totally different. It is a dinner party–themed game, where all of the recipes are made from aphrodisiacs! And apart from simply savoring the sexual desires that the food will bring, there’s another twist to this game. You and your partner really have to play with the food and each other!

Here’s an example, asparagus is a known aphrodisiac right? So… instead of just eating the asparagus off the plate, place one between hear breasts… and then eat it!

Tequila Body Shots

This is, by far, the easiest and simplest aphrodisiac game I can ever think of… yet super sexy! Alcohol isn’t really an aphrodisiac, but you know what they say, when you’re intoxicated, you can possibly do anything!

Plus, with alcohol, blood rushes through your veins so fast that you want to release all of your sexual emotions right away. And because there’s a tendency that you’ll get drunk, we both prefer to do this at the comfort of our own home. After all, all you need is a bottle of tequila, some salt, and some lime.

So here’s what you do: put some salt on your woman’s body, lick the slat off, drown a shot of tequila and follow up with a piece of lime. Easy! The trick of course is to be ‘creative’ with where you put the salt on her body. I personally love it when my man licks salt of my lips, wrist, inner arm, and between my breasts!

Just do this game with a bit of moderation ok? Tequila is also notoriously known as a ‘knockout drink’. That is, you guys can easily get drunk without you realizing it. One minute, you’re up and happy and then bang! you’re throwing up everywhere! And this, my friends, ruins every chance of you getting laid tonight.

So are you having a difficult time having fun in your sex life? Choose any one of these sexy games and their aphrodisiac props, and tell me which one gives you the most laughter, the highest passion pull, and leads to the hottest sex!

Enjoy!

Sarah

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One of my subscribers has written me sometime bask complaining that each time she and her husband kiss, there seems to be a ‘time limit’ and all-too-familiar routine that they follow. It goes like this: gentle kissing, followed by about 5 minutes of torrid kissing, and then intercourse!

She said that although she liked having sex with her husband it was becoming like a well-rehearsed routine… help!

Kissing is an Art

One of the best ways to prolong foreplay is to indulge in the many ways you and your partner can kiss each other. Here are a few tips for you.

The Bent Kiss is the type of kiss that’s meant for ‘deep tongue penetration’. It requires one partner to be taller or be at an elevated height than the other. For couples with differing heights, no problem but for couples of equal heights, try kissing on the stairs or while one of you is sitting on the table or sink. The objective is to have one bending over the other for maximum tongue playing.

The Upper Lip Kiss is when you kiss the upper lip of your partner, making your partner focus on your lower lip. This type of kiss allows for a different type of sensation and oh yes, a little sucking of the lips is allowed too!

The Upside-Down Kiss is literally kissing each other while upside-down. Don’t worry; you don’t need any form of acrobatics here. For example, initiate foreplay while your partner is watching TV. Touch his/her shoulders from behind the couch, give him/her a hug, bend over his/her head and start the kiss!

I just gave you two pointers here. Firstly, let your partner know you’re behind him/her! Think about it. How would you react if there was this big head appearing in your line of vision all of a sudden! Secondly, proceed gently, the ‘hug’ part lets your partner know you’re in a ‘tender, loving place’ and because he/she knows this, the kiss you give will be more welcome.

Also, do time your upside-down kiss well! There’s no point in initiating foreplay during the championship of the Super Bowl. You’re setting yourself up badly and you know it! Men, if you know she’s REALLY into Oprah, now is not the time for you to initiate this either.

Kiss and Lick (a.k.a. tongue bathing) is when you ensure that you kiss and lick your partner in ‘equal portions’. I’ve always said that many of us do not lick enough! So when you feel that your partner wants to immediately move on to lovemaking, delay it by engaging in some licking. Be sure to make the change subtle and to alternate between kissing and licking.

The Awakening Kiss is the kiss you want to do if you want to initiate foreplay in the morning or whenever your partner is sleeping. Personally, I call it the “Sleeping Beauty Kiss” because basically you start kissing your partner gently while he/she is still asleep. Don’t make the kiss too wet or too aggressive. Remember, you want your partner to awaken to ‘gentle, sensual pleasures’ and not to a rough assault.

Chocolate Kisses is by far one of my favorites. It is as simple as it sounds, pop a piece of chocolate in your mouth, melt it a bit and when it’s soft and gooey… go for the kiss! You can do some variations of this depending on what you and your partner love to eat. For example, peanut butter is good for most people as well as candy bars. Just be sure it’s something your partner loves to east as well!

There you go. Add these kiss variations into your foreplay repertoire and your partner will surely be surprised, delighted and excited by all these NEW things that are going on in your relationship.

Happy Kissing!

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This may come as a surprise to you but not all women come with full knowledge and acceptance of cunnilingus or ‘being eaten out’. From a woman’s point of view, oral sex is often a matter of trust, i.e., opening up her most ‘scared place’ for ‘close scrutiny’ to you. In fact, believe it or not, there are plenty of women out there who are more open to sexual intercourse than cunnilingus. They claim that the latter is a more ‘private affair’. I know, go figure.

If your partner is a cunnilingus virgin, don’t lose hope end assume she’s deadest against it. For all you know, she’s simply waiting for the right guy to show her the high sexual pleasure that cunnilingus brings.

How to Persuade Your Partner to Engage in Cunnilingus

Discuss, not dictate.

The wrong approach to take is to STATE that she ‘needs’ to experience cunnilingus. For one, you probably don’t even know why she’s not into being muff dived yet so don’t assume anything. Instead, talk to her about it. Ask if she has any negative impressions or bad experiences regarding cunnilingus so that you’re better able to address whatever it is that’s eating her up (pun intended).

Also, showing that you’re willing to discuss and understand her shows your caring side, which in turn makes her trust you more, which in turn makes her more open to the thought of you going down on her.

Try, not force.

As a cunnilingus virgin, it’s understandable that she may be a bit squeamish about the whole affair the first time. Don’t expect compete and wild abandon here. And don’t force her to feel great about it either by ramming your tongue deeper into her or propelling it like helicopter blades. You might hurt her, making her think cunnilingus is not pleasurable at all!

Also, don’t be offended by immediate reaction she has. For example, here’s a story from one of my clients, let’s just call him Jack.

So Jack was eating his lady out. Since she was new to cunnilingus, her emotions about all the new sexual feelings where everywhere. Her physical response to this was to bring her thighs tightly together… that’s right, squeezing Jack’s head between her legs! Anyway, Jack understood this so he GENTLY pried her legs apart and licked gentler to make her relax.

Can you imagine if, feeling a bit of pain, Jack drastically pulled his head away? That would rudely abruptly her sexual pleasure and might even make her think he doesn’t like eating her out after all.

Explore, not just apply.

Although she may be a cunnilingus virgin, it doesn’t mean that techniques that worked for your previous partners will work on her. For one, some women, like it rough, others don’t. Some women like being finger fucked while being licked, others don’t. And so on.

So for her first time, just be gentle and go with the flow. Be attuned with her body and its reactions instead of trying to apply – what you think – is a great cunnilingus formula.

Encourage trust, not misgiving.

Again, since this is her first time with cunnilingus, it’s important to start gently so that you earn her trust. If you go down there like Rambo, and chances are she’s not ready for that at all, she will instinctively assume that she’ll experience some sort of pain or discomfort. As a result, she will not be completely open to the whole cunnilingus thing anymore.

Also, at the very least, she may not feel much sexual pleasure at all, enabling her to incorrectly assume that cunnilingus is no big deal.

Make it all about HER pleasure.

Try not to be the great Casanova as you go down on her or revel in the fact that you’re her sexual teacher, and she your helpless sex student who wants nothing more than to accept your moves.

Sometimes, men can get so full in their heads about how they’re such great lovers that the focus is all wrong. So this time, make it all about her. Her body, her reactions, her sexual pleasure. If she achieves an orgasm during cunnilingus, GREAT but it’s not your goal.

Your goal is to simply let her know how sexually enriching cunnilingus is and that it’s another way you can enrich your relationship – sexually and otherwise. Good luck!

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For all possible reasons, be it mere curiosity, adolescent associations, voyeuristic tendencies, or something else altogether, this fantasy to watch a woman masturbate has strong appeal to men of all ages. So why keep it a fantasy?

Ways to Persuade Her to Engage in ‘Self-Love’ Right Before Your Eyes

First and the most important factor that will eventually lead towards fulfilling your fantasy is trust. Your partner has to trust you. If she trusts you, it’s amazing how easy it can be to accomplish this goal.

It may be as simple as asking her to do it. But more often than not, you need to build on the trust between you first, and this may take some time. Some women are so dependent on their men, they would almost instantly do anything to please him. Other women will never do a single thing that makes them uncomfortable, no matter how much they love their partners. Therefore, one of the goals here would be to make your woman feel comfortable enough to succumb to playing out this fantasy of yours.

To convince her to do it for the first time is a problem, because how do you tell her what you want in a proper and non-demeaning way? An honest relationship allows you to approach your partner with all your needs and desires, so simply explaining to her this fantasy you harbor would be a good start. If she is reluctant, offer to do it first.

Ask your partner to sit down, fully clothed and have her watch you masturbate. Do not allow her to interact, just allow her to watch.

Perhaps it would help if you offer her to role-play. The story would go something like this: she is alone at home, in bed, reading. You are a burglar who got surprised by her early return and who is hiding in the closet. She can then pretend that nobody is home and have a go at herself, while you are in the closet ogling your eyes out.

Also, be careful of being misunderstood by your request to watch her masturbate. Think of it from her point of view: she is present, ready and willing to have sex with you… and you prefer to just watch and not engage with her?

Unless you really explain why you want to do it this way, she’ll figure you’re a pervert. You, on the other hand, will have a hard time staying put. At some point the pressure in your pants will go berserk, so calculate that occurrence when you propose to do a purely voyeuristic encounter.

Why Masturbation is Good for Your Relationship

Why is it important to go through with such a fantasy? This is because it is healthy for your relationship to live out all your sexual fantasies together with your partner.

If you don’t talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies and you leave them simmering in the back of your head, some day you will get a feeling as if you are missing out on something. Such desires can get very strong and ultimately ruin a good relationship.

The solution is to speak out about it. Women are smart, but they cannot read minds, again unless you are married to her for a decade or so. Actually, this advice to speak out about your sexual fantasies goes both ways. You need to ask her about her fantasies and reciprocate by fulfilling her desires too.

A very young relationship, where you have been together with a woman for a couple of days, or maybe weeks, is frail and asking your girlfriend to perform for you is a risk. However, if you are honest and able to properly define your reasons for asking such a thing, she may do it. And even if she doesn’t this should be fine with you.

There is plenty of time to get back to that idea later. An icebreaker may be to propose to masturbate simultaneously, watching each other. This may also be a solution in case she is reluctant to have real sex.

On the other hand, a mature relationship, perhaps a yearlong marriage, does very little to promote variety and sex is mostly a matter of catching a mutually convenient and physically possible moment to get intimate.

To waste that moment on a fantasy may seem ludicrous to you, but believe me that a change in the routine may be a very welcome surprise to your love life. It is always good to be creative and imaginative with your partner, so that she feels wanted, desirable, sexy and beautiful. After years of marriage, sometimes that validation is more important to a woman then having sex. So really, asking her to masturbate in front of you may be something she’s secretly delighted with!

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How to Prepare a ‘Proper’ Bath for Her

No guys, a bath is not just filling the tub with hot water and pouring some bubble bath solution in it. If you’re going to do this, do it good and create the right ambiance for her.

First, close the windows and blinds and submerge the whole bathroom in darkness. Next, light some candles. They can be scented or not depending on what you use for the… scented oil you want to place on the burner or oil diffuser.

So for example, if you’re using vanilla oil on the oil diffuser, don’t use strawberry-scented candles as the heady, super sweet smells will most likely give you both a headache. Aim for one scent or like what’s mentioned above, use non-scented candles if you’re going to burn scented oils.

Also, don’t scrimp on the candles ok? The more, the merrier!

Next, put on some soothing music and make sure it’s not too loud or too soft. To test this, turn the music on and go into the bathroom and close the door a bit. Check if the music level is just right.

Next, make sure everything you need is within reach. It’s not good if you break the sexual massage all the time by running out of the bathroom! Plus, it’s not good for the overall warm temperature in the bathroom. Just put everything you need on a tray and set this on the toilet or on a small chair.

Don’t forget a few edible treats. A glass of wine or champagne and a platter of crackers and cheese are sexy and will make you both last long during the sexual massage.

Sexual Massage Moves in the Bath

For starters, let her soak in the bath for about 5 to 10 minutes just to loosen her tight muscles and wracked nerves. Don’t join her in the bath just yet.

Start sexually massaging her while you’re still outside the tub. Sit on the edge or pull up a chair and use a wooden massage roller and move this along her body.

You can also position yourself at the top edge of the tub so you can massage her head. Slip your hands under her shoulders and then draw them up and out. A variation of this step is to pull your hands along the underside of the head, with your fingers against the back of the neck.

Feel free to shampoo her hair too. The pressure of your hands on her scalp in combination with the soft suds of the shampoo will feel great. Besides, this is the beauty of a sexual massage in the bathroom, no cares for the all the water and soap that might spill on the floor.

Now, without breaking your massage strokes, climb into the bathtub and join her. Sit behind her with her back to yours (sort of like spoon to spoon). Start massaging her shoulders and work your way to her lower back. And now comes the best part… massaging her front.

Start by reaching over and cupping her breasts (gently!). You can use the soap suds or better yet, put more soap gel on your hands and start massaging her breasts as if you were trying to create a lot of lather!

Tease her by massaging her breasts, moving to her shoulders, going back to her breasts, going down and rubbing her stomach, back to hear breasts again. Each time, be a bit more daring and go lower and lower her front. For instance, just massage or ‘clean’ her belly button with your finger and then go back to her breasts before going down to her pubic area.

Here’s a naughty tip for you: unless your woman has gone Brazilian (i.e., has had all her pubic hair shaved off) you can try ‘shampooing’ her hair down there! Simply apply the same strokes you would as if you were washing her hair.

As a climax to this hot tub sexual massage, you may go ahead and insert your finger in her ‘sweet spot’. Remember, this should be part of the sexual massage and should not be seen as the sexual act itself so be gentle while you finger her. The objective is not to make her come but to simply ‘connect’ with that special place as well. Good luck!

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One of the biggest challenges for guys when it comes to sex is how to ensure that his woman is also in the mood for it. What usually happens is this: you want sex and she, for some reason, doesn’t. However, instead of getting sexually frustrated - or worse, try to force her! - why not enlist the help of a few aphrodisiacs?

No need to go exotic and spend a gargantuan amount of money. Try these ‘natural’ aphrodisiacs to set her in the right mood without going through too much hassle.

Balut

Balut, the popular delicacy of most Filipinos, is actually a fertilized duck that has a developed embryo inside. The egg is boiled and is enjoyed with a pinch of salt and a couple of drops of vinegar. And because a lot of men testify to its astonishing effects, plus its affordability compared to other forms of aphrodisiacs, the balut has become a popular street food in Asian countries. However, thanks to the wonders of exports, you can probably find balut in any Asian grocery store near you.

If you don’t want to try this now, then don’t forget about it when you and your woman are on a trip in Asia. It’s worth a try!

Ginseng

Ginseng is a genus of 11 species of perennial plants with fleshy roots. They grow in China, Asia, Korea and Siberia. Normally, ginseng is used as nourishing stimulants and as treatment of Type II Diabetes. It’s also widely used in vitamins and food supplements for men. But since its discovery, only lately has its most significant use been adopted. That is, it’s undoubted role in men’s sexual prowess. In fact, according to a 2002 study, both Asian and American forms of ginseng markedly increased libido levels of animals, thus improving their sexual performance.

If your woman drinks a lot of tea already, then switching to one that is ginger-flavored is not a bad idea. A few dishes cooked with a lot of ginger is also nice. Just don’t serve a plateful of raw ginger! I assure you, any ‘hotness’ from this will not lead to sex!

Honey

Honey is a sweet viscous liquid that can actually bring sex performance to higher levels and make your “honey” beg you for more. Coming from the nectar of flowers, honey is a mixture mainly of sugars and other compounds like fructose and glucose. The nitric oxide in it is also known to open up blood vessels and stimulate erection. This may sound like an aphrodisiac for you rather than for her… but an obviously erect penis works wonders for us women as well!

Besides, honey can be ‘consumed’ in many ways right? So why not spread a bit of honey on your ‘honey’? Lick away! Lick away! Lick away!

Oats

Who says oats are only for dieters? Oats work as well in letting out the real man in you. Among the sources of aphrodisiacs, this is the most affordable one. In recent studies, the power of oats has been seen to significantly race the level of testosterone in men. Think it’s impossible? Try it!

Oysters

La Trelle Spencer in White Chicks said that oysters are an aphrodisiac. And yes it’s true! It’s been found that oysters are rich in certain amino acids that notably increase the levels of sex hormones. You may also want to add some spice to your oysters as spice can lead to increased heart rate and sometimes even sweating. These are responses similar to the ones you feel when you’re ‘getting it on’. So once you smell your honey cooking up some grilled oysters, you know what’s going to happen next!

Peanut Butter

Peanut butter lovers certainly will love to read this. This lovely snack can actually increase the desire for sex! It is rich in Vitamin B1 and Vitamin E, which is also called the “sexuality vitamin”.

And here’s a naughty tip you can try! Make sure your woman is sitting somewhere, say on the sofa, dinner chair, whatever! Then go ala Elvis and get a banana. Half-peel this and smear the top with peanut butter. No, position the half-peeled banana directly in front of your penis (and facing her face!). Approach your woman and, WITHOUT LAUGHING, ask her to taste your banana. If she doesn’t get horny from this, I don’t know what will!

Indeed, nature has everything to offer. What more could you ask for? Delicious aphrodisiac foods that are very affordable. All you have to do is learn these tricks and remember that hot sex doesn’t depend on how much aphrodisiac you eat but in the love that you put in it.

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It´s finally 2008, I´m so excited about 2008.

Today I´ll give you some tips to spend a VERY sensual evening with your partner.

It´s called “lights… camera… action!”

Because the idea is to take advantage of the technology we have today (such as digital cameras) to enjoy some sexy moments together.

So let´s get started!

1. Grab your video camera and make your own porno movie together. I recommend creating a title for the movie and a story. Don´t just have sex in front of a camera! Create a story first, and then act it…

2. Get a few costumes to make your porno movie even more sensual. For example, try roles like: CEO of a company, secretary, soldier, prostitute, etc.

3. Another great technique is to videotape yourselves having sex. Just have sex as usual. And then watch the movie together to see what you both like and what you´re doing wrong. (It will help both of you improve your sex skills!)

4. Finally I recommend preparing a romantic dinner together, grab a bottle of red wine, a few candles and… enjoy your sensual movies together!

Enjoy!

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In tackling the issue of libido I have put together a list of the most universal reasons (and solutions) for a waning in a woman’s libido; it maybe possible to correct the circumstances with a few simple lifestyle changes.

Note of Introduction

Libido/Sex Drive vs. Sexual Arousal

There’s a large difference between sexual desire and physical arousal: Desire (or libido) refers to your interest in sex, while arousal relates to your body’s physical response, such as vaginal lubrication or clitoral erection. There can be a relationship between a woman’s libido and sexual arousal as those women with a greater libido often find it easier to get aroused. The opposite is also true with those women with a lower libido finding it much harder to get aroused. The whole idea then is to increase the sex drive and thus your body will respond by being aroused much easier.

Below we list nine reasons that may lower sex drive and suggest ways that may help you boost you libido.

1. Situation and Lifestyle

The older we women get the more responsibilities that we have to handle. When we were younger most of us had higher sex drives that can take as huge fall when we get older. The time between work, kids, friendships, hobbies and homemaking doesn’t leave much time for sex. Then when you find you have a litlle spare time often the last things you feel is sexual or in need of any sexual contact; women often just want to read a good book, watch some TV or catch up on a little sleep. It not that us ladies don’t want to have sex it has just some how become a low priority.

Ladies we must all remember that sex is a very important part of any adult relationship. It may mean you have to be a little practical and schedule sex into the calendar. This may sound a little funny but if that is the only way to make sure that you have a chance for lovemaking then it must be done.

Assign one or two nights a week when you spend quality romantic time with oyur partner. It time to kick things up a notch: For example take turns bringing something new into the bedroom. such as sex toy, illustrated book, video ir technique. The idea about scheduling tie together is so that you’re making a commitment and also allows you to get a mind set of what is going to happen. It gives you mind and body time to prepare and will help find it helps you when sexual arousal enters the equation as you will be more ready for it then coming in cold.

2. Mindset – Anxiety, Stress and Fear

Sex is the last ting on a woman’s mind when she is stressed, anxious or has some fears. It could be work related, a relationship issue, family or money problems and they can really lower drastically a woman’s libido.

How can any girl feel sexy when she has to worry about mortgage repayments. Fear and anxiety associated with sex itself can also cause problems. In the modern world there are fears of STD’s or of getting pregnant, they all can affect the libido and lower he chances of having a rewarding sexual experience.

The way to conquer stress, fear and anxiety is to firstly ensure that the body is healthy. It is up to you to look after you body by eating right, drinking plenty of water, taking regular exercise or even practicing relaxation techniques such as yoga or meditation.

Listen girls, it may seem like hard work but if you are not doing it for your health then do it for your sex lives. The next step is to strengthen the mind by doing things you are good for you such as reading, doing a crossword, talking to friends, kids and your partner and writing in a journal. If you have a healthy body and mind you will become much more capable to deal with the problems in the bedroom.

If you’ve tried these methods and still feel that anxiety and fear are detrimental your libido, it may be time to seek qualified help. If you are secure with the thought, attempt to talk to a sex therapist. Otherwise a psychologist, life coach or marriage counsellor as they can help you feel better and enjoy sex more.

3. Routine and Boredom

It is easy to get stuck in a groove and familiarity can be a big libido killer. Many women’s ideal is to be in a monogamous relationship but after 20 years it is perfectly normal to be bored or uninspired by your partner. By this time you have tried most things and have ruled out or forgotten about anything you haven’t tried. This can also apply to couples who have been dating for less than six months as they too can get into a sexual rut after the first flush of puppy love has gone away. It can end up with you using the missionary position every time you get it on like on a Monday, Wednesday and Saturday night. It is fine but everyone needs a bit of variety and spontaneity in their lives.

It is time now to get back to basics and to those sexual routes. Try to approach sex as a brand new experience and forget about everything that you like and don’t like. Approach you partner and talk about what you want to try in bed. It might be that you just need to introduce something new to the bedroom. There are many ways to re-invigorate your sex life; buy a sex toy and use with your mate, watch sexy videos and try to recreate the scene, read or look through some illustrated sex guides. There maybe some initial embarrassment or unease with your new experiences together, but if you can keep an open mind you will soon find that your new found experiences lead to much more fun and satisfaction.

4. Relationship Issues

If there is any ill feeling towards a partner it has to be addressed. If an issue or conflict is left unresolved it will lead to a dampening of desire as can secrets or if you are emotionally upset for some reason. When you are carrying negative feelings about a partner, your level of attraction for that person can wane dramatically an even in some severe cases never return. It can be as simple as a lack of appropriate hygiene, or something more complex, such as infidelity; whatever the case issues have to be addressed and dealt with before you can feel sexual again towards your partner.

Communication is the key to a good relationship. If you don’t talk to your partner, resentment will grow with you partner and eventually result in an all out conflict. If talking to one another doesn’t work then maybe it means trying a counsellor or therapist to move things in a positive direction. If that doesn’t work then maybe it is time to see a sex therapist as there maybe problems that are deep rooted that even you are not aware of. I am afraid to say though if all else fails then it may just mean that a relationship has run its course and it is time to say goodbye. It maybe a sad moment but sex is an important part of your life and a relationship and you must enjoy it.

5. Body Complex

No one is ever one hundred percent satisfied with their own body as I have covered in other parts of my website. It maybe those extra large love-handles or those bingo wings or maybe even an issue with your small breasts. The truth is that to feel positive about sex then you must be happy with your own body. As I have said we all have imperfections (perceived or real) and it time to accept them and live with them. If you can’t then you may need to take some further action.

Read my article on how to build your self esteem and improve you body image.

6. Getting Older

Age catches up with us all and does take a toll on our bodies. There is a loss of bone mass, susceptibility to illness, painful joints, grey hair, sagging flesh and the list goes on. Menopause and decreased testosterone (yes in women too) production are the reasons for decrease in libido but fear, anxiety and depression from aging can contribute too.

If you are going through the menopause, it is important that you understand the changes taking place in your own body. It may mean seeking out your doctor about treatment for the physical changes that are taking place and affecting the sex drive. The use of Estrogens in any forms can increase blood flow to the vagina and increase arousal thus leading to increased desire. Hormone therapy that includes low dose androgens has been shown to be particularly effective at increasing low libido. There may even be something as easy as the use of lubricants to get an immediate effect if you are experiencing vaginal dryness.

7. Sexual Abuse

Those people that have been unfortunate to suffer sexual abuse can later then have a difficult time with physical intimacy. It is a natural reaction and it takes time and understanding for both the mind and boy to deal with these painful experiences, but there is little attention paid to our sexuality. Please if this applies to you know that many people who have suffered sexual assault have gone on to have healthy and full sexual relationships. It takes time, patience, understanding and some counselling. This cannot be rushed and you must take your time and only become intimate when you are ready too! Never ever let anyone pressure you into something you feel uncomfortable about.

8. Medication

It is widely known that the effect of birth control pills (also when combined with oral contraceptives) leads to a lowered libido. The decreased androgen production or lowered testosterone levels can cause women to experience a lower libido and less vaginal lubrication.

There are other medications that also dampen desire such as tranquilisers, high blood pressure pills and mood stabilizer amongst many. It must also be noted that even mediation that isn’t anyway connected to sexual; arousal can have an adverse affect on sexual desire. When talking to your doctor about any new medication and finding that it may alter your libido it might be best to ask if there maybe a viable alternative.

Depression seems to be a part of modern life. If you are feeling down and cannot shake the feeling it may mean you have depression. If you feel this way then it maybe time to see you doctor. Depression will make many people listless, drowsy, sad, angry, upset and very emotional. Depression will have a very noticeable effect on libido. It is known that as many as seventy five percent of people with depression also suffer a lowered sex drive.

The very drugs that are used to treat depression (MAOI’s, SSRI’s and tricyclics) can also lead to sexual dysfunction, such as a delay in orgasm and lead to an adverse affect on the level of sexual desire.

There have been changes in the last few years that have given hope to people in this situation. There are drugs such as Viagra(r) with antidepressants. Then there may be the use of herbal remedies such a Ginkgo Bilboa, which is thought to help with lack of desire related to taking Paxil or other antidepressants. The there may also be Wellbutrin that has been shown to combat reduced sexual desire.

Please, though whatever you decide or look into always consult you doctor before any changing of medication or stopping your medications.

9. Medical Problems

There are many numbers of medical disorders that can lower libido such as a thyroid problem or hormone deficiency (especially in older people). A metabolic disorder; anything that adversely affects you metabolism (including an eating disorder, accident, trauma or illness) will obviously cause a lowered libido; it is also true to note that one in five American women have hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), more comely know as a low sex drive. If you have ruled out all other reasons to why you have a low sex drive then consult you doctor. You may have a readily curable medical condition.

Conclusion

There isn’t such a thing as a normal libido we are all different and have different sex drives. If you feel frustrated by lack of sexual appetite, take it easy. . Your personal sense of normality is defined by how you feel about your sexuality and whether or not you’re happy with how you are expressing it. If you are comfortable about your sexuality then congratulations; if however you feel that you may need a gentle push; then explore the remedies suggested here. There is though no miracle cure some of the suggestions here have worked for other people but may not work for you. It may just take time and patience. It may mean just going solo for a while with a sex toy or eating a piece of chocolate. Hey girls chocolates is an aphrodisiac after all!

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And when you use your imagination, it’s equally important to apply your ‘naughty thoughts’ on your woman’s erogenous zones. Erogenous zones are those unique places in her body that generate sexual arousal when stimulated. And so if you know her erotic zones and apply your lustful imagination on them, you can make having sex with her a whole-body experience instead of just engaging in sex that’s limited to her genitals.

Erogenous zones are also important to know when you are giving her a sexual massage!

Know Her ‘Hot Buttons’

So do you know your woman’s sweet sex spots? Here’s a quick rundown of what they may likely be and what you can do to it during a sexual massage.

Her Breasts.

Ok, her breasts may not be a big erogenous zone secret for you but do you know how to handle them properly during a sexual massage? Most women find men too rough when it comes to fondling their breasts. And more so during sexual massage! So what do you do?

First of all, remember that the goal of a sexual massage is to de-stress while heightening sexual desire. So the general rule is to handle her body with TLC (tender loving care).

When it comes to her breasts, this is what you should do during your sexual massage session: avoid putting your whole hand over her breast. Using your index fingers, lightly press on her nipples as you would press a sensitive buzzer. First use dry fingers, then lick your index fingers and push down again.

The fact that she does not feel anything except your index finger on her nipple will send shivers through her body! And because you’re not touching her anywhere else (avoid any other body contact), her body is still in total relaxation (while her mind is already advancing towards sex).

Now, after about 10 ‘finger presses’, very lightly lick her nipple. Do not overdo this, just give her butterfly licks. After about 10 licks on each breast, stop and go to other hot zones.

Her Armpit.

Another erogenous zone is her armpit. Lick this during the sexual massage and she will feel delirious and lustful! To make sure that this is not unpleasant for you. Prepare a wet, hot towel before you start the sexual massage and use it to wipe her armpit before you start licking gently.

Do the ‘Dip’

From her upper torso, gently move towards sexually massaging her by doing “The Dip”. Put her arms above her head then position your arms under her shoulder (as if you were embracing her in bed). This position will ‘open’ her body to you. Breathe warmly against her collarbone, kiss the side of each breast and then position your tongue between her breasts.

From this position, lick her all the way down, passing her stomach, belly button, belly and then ending with a quick ‘dip’ in her genitals!

Her Foot.

This is the proper position when you start focusing on her feet: have her bend her knees and spread her legs a bit. This vulnerable position will already bring images of sex to her mind. You then kneel between her legs and lift one of her legs so that you can massage her foot. Put a lot of warm, massage oil on your hands and then slowly knead her feet. At the end of your massage, breathe against the sole of her feet. Your warm breath will both relax and sexually stimulate her.

Her Toes.

Toes are often neglected erogenous zones! The proper way to sexually massage toes is this: clean off any oil on and between her toes with a soft, wet and warm towel. Hold her big toe, run your thumb against its sole (out a bit of pressure) and follow through with a quick like. Do this for each toe. The next step is to slowly and seductively suck each toe!

Her Butt.

Have your woman lie on her back. Put some warm oil on your hands and gently massage her ass, kneading lightly. After this, progress to kissing them and licking them. And then just when she’s so relaxed, comfortable or maybe even about to drift off, part her buttocks and lick her anus. This will send her a sexual charge like no other!

Proceed to licking her crack and when you notice that she’s getting too excited. Turn her over and let the love-making begin!

The fact that you’re bodies are both slick from the massage oil and glistening in the dark makes love-making even more exciting.

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Please, please, please try one of them tonight with your loved one.

Enjoy!

Sarah

Missionary Position 1

For women, the missionary position is often the most difficult when it comes to achieving orgasm. Unfortunately, if your partner is nervous or not very experimental, she may not be interested in trying other positions yet. That doesn’t mean she can’t still get off. Have your partner lie back on the bed and place a pillow or two under her butt so her pelvic area is more arched. Remember to continue the foreplay even as you are getting in position, so fondle her breasts or play with her butt as you place the pillows. Whisper in her ear that you have something incredible in store for her, then let her mind conjure up the details. With her pelvic area arched in this way thanks to the pillows, you’ll have an easier time of stimulating her clitoris during vaginal intercourse. However, if you want to boost your odds, you can purchase an inexpensive vibrator designed for the anus. Gently insert it at or before you begin penetration. The vibrations will stimulate her pelvic area, including her clitoris, which may lead you both to the desired orgasm.

Missionary Position 2

Repeat everything from the first missionary position we discussed, but instead of using the vibrator, place your partner’s legs on your shoulders as you thrust inside her. This makes it easier for your penis to stimulate her clitoris. Remember to start slowly and work your way up to harder and deeper penetration. Let her reaction guide you. If she begins to moan with pleasure, then intensify your movements.

Missionary Position 3

This is a variation of the second missionary position which allows for even deeper penetration and gives you an angle more appropriate for clitoral stimulation. Again, your partner lies on her back on the bed. You’ll be kneeling above her, but at a slight angle. Take her legs and put both of them over one of your shoulders. Make sure you remain at that slight angle during penetration as well.

Missionary Position 4

This missionary position works by keeping the two of you closely connected so each thrust is more likely to stimulate its desired target. Of course, your partner lies on her back and you straddle her body. After you are inside her, she needs to pull her legs tightly together and you’ll need to wrap your ankles around her lower legs. While in this position, you’ll continue thrusting into her. If she seems uncomfortable, you may want to use lessen the depth of each thrust. Remember discomfort of any kind will interfere with your partner’s orgasm.

Missionary Position 5

While this technique may not technically be an example of the missionary position, this is the best classification I could determine. This time your partner lies on the bed or floor with you kneeling above her. Now take her legs and raise them up, so you are holding her calves in the crook of your arm. Her butt should now be lifted off the bed and her vagina should be in line with your penis, so penetration will be easier. If it makes her more comfortable, you could slide some soft pillows under her lower back. In this position, each time you thrust into her, you are also pulling her body against yours so each penetration is deeper and more intense. Because of the angle of the penetration, you are also more likely to stimulate either her clitoris or her G-spot which should bring her to orgasm.

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