This may come as a shock to you but sex is really pretty boring IF you end up following a routine. So how do you avoid this? Don’t be afraid to use your imagination! That is why most people say that the brain – not the genitals – is the most important sex organ.

And when you use your imagination, it’s equally important to apply your ‘naughty thoughts’ on your woman’s erogenous zones. Erogenous zones are those unique places in her body that generate sexual arousal when stimulated. And so if you know her erotic zones and apply your lustful imagination on them, you can make having sex with her a whole-body experience instead of just engaging in sex that’s limited to her genitals.

Erogenous zones are also important to know when you are giving her a sexual massage!

Know Her ‘Hot Buttons’

So do you know your woman’s sweet sex spots? Here’s a quick rundown of what they may likely be and what you can do to it during a sexual massage.

Her Breasts.

Ok, her breasts may not be a big erogenous zone secret for you but do you know how to handle them properly during a sexual massage? Most women find men too rough when it comes to fondling their breasts. And more so during sexual massage! So what do you do?

First of all, remember that the goal of a sexual massage is to de-stress while heightening sexual desire. So the general rule is to handle her body with TLC (tender loving care).

When it comes to her breasts, this is what you should do during your sexual massage session: avoid putting your whole hand over her breast. Using your index fingers, lightly press on her nipples as you would press a sensitive buzzer. First use dry fingers, then lick your index fingers and push down again.

The fact that she does not feel anything except your index finger on her nipple will send shivers through her body! And because you’re not touching her anywhere else (avoid any other body contact), her body is still in total relaxation (while her mind is already advancing towards sex).

Now, after about 10 ‘finger presses’, very lightly lick her nipple. Do not overdo this, just give her butterfly licks. After about 10 licks on each breast, stop and go to other hot zones.

Her Armpit.

Another erogenous zone is her armpit. Lick this during the sexual massage and she will feel delirious and lustful! To make sure that this is not unpleasant for you. Prepare a wet, hot towel before you start the sexual massage and use it to wipe her armpit before you start licking gently.

Do the ‘Dip’

From her upper torso, gently move towards sexually massaging her by doing “The Dip”. Put her arms above her head then position your arms under her shoulder (as if you were embracing her in bed). This position will ‘open’ her body to you. Breathe warmly against her collarbone, kiss the side of each breast and then position your tongue between her breasts.

From this position, lick her all the way down, passing her stomach, belly button, belly and then ending with a quick ‘dip’ in her genitals!

Her Foot.

This is the proper position when you start focusing on her feet: have her bend her knees and spread her legs a bit. This vulnerable position will already bring images of sex to her mind. You then kneel between her legs and lift one of her legs so that you can massage her foot. Put a lot of warm, massage oil on your hands and then slowly knead her feet. At the end of your massage, breathe against the sole of her feet. Your warm breath will both relax and sexually stimulate her.

Her Toes.

Toes are often neglected erogenous zones! The proper way to sexually massage toes is this: clean off any oil on and between her toes with a soft, wet and warm towel. Hold her big toe, run your thumb against its sole (out a bit of pressure) and follow through with a quick like. Do this for each toe. The next step is to slowly and seductively suck each toe!

Her Butt.

Have your woman lie on her back. Put some warm oil on your hands and gently massage her ass, kneading lightly. After this, progress to kissing them and licking them. And then just when she’s so relaxed, comfortable or maybe even about to drift off, part her buttocks and lick her anus. This will send her a sexual charge like no other!

Proceed to licking her crack and when you notice that she’s getting too excited. Turn her over and let the love-making begin!

The fact that you’re bodies are both slick from the massage oil and glistening in the dark makes love-making even more exciting.

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Hi there! Today I want to share with you 5 hot variations of the so-called missionary position.

Please, please, please try one of them tonight with your loved one.

Enjoy!

Sarah

Missionary Position 1

For women, the missionary position is often the most difficult when it comes to achieving orgasm. Unfortunately, if your partner is nervous or not very experimental, she may not be interested in trying other positions yet. That doesn’t mean she can’t still get off. Have your partner lie back on the bed and place a pillow or two under her butt so her pelvic area is more arched. Remember to continue the foreplay even as you are getting in position, so fondle her breasts or play with her butt as you place the pillows. Whisper in her ear that you have something incredible in store for her, then let her mind conjure up the details. With her pelvic area arched in this way thanks to the pillows, you’ll have an easier time of stimulating her clitoris during vaginal intercourse. However, if you want to boost your odds, you can purchase an inexpensive vibrator designed for the anus. Gently insert it at or before you begin penetration. The vibrations will stimulate her pelvic area, including her clitoris, which may lead you both to the desired orgasm.

Missionary Position 2

Repeat everything from the first missionary position we discussed, but instead of using the vibrator, place your partner’s legs on your shoulders as you thrust inside her. This makes it easier for your penis to stimulate her clitoris. Remember to start slowly and work your way up to harder and deeper penetration. Let her reaction guide you. If she begins to moan with pleasure, then intensify your movements.

Missionary Position 3

This is a variation of the second missionary position which allows for even deeper penetration and gives you an angle more appropriate for clitoral stimulation. Again, your partner lies on her back on the bed. You’ll be kneeling above her, but at a slight angle. Take her legs and put both of them over one of your shoulders. Make sure you remain at that slight angle during penetration as well.

Missionary Position 4

This missionary position works by keeping the two of you closely connected so each thrust is more likely to stimulate its desired target. Of course, your partner lies on her back and you straddle her body. After you are inside her, she needs to pull her legs tightly together and you’ll need to wrap your ankles around her lower legs. While in this position, you’ll continue thrusting into her. If she seems uncomfortable, you may want to use lessen the depth of each thrust. Remember discomfort of any kind will interfere with your partner’s orgasm.

Missionary Position 5

While this technique may not technically be an example of the missionary position, this is the best classification I could determine. This time your partner lies on the bed or floor with you kneeling above her. Now take her legs and raise them up, so you are holding her calves in the crook of your arm. Her butt should now be lifted off the bed and her vagina should be in line with your penis, so penetration will be easier. If it makes her more comfortable, you could slide some soft pillows under her lower back. In this position, each time you thrust into her, you are also pulling her body against yours so each penetration is deeper and more intense. Because of the angle of the penetration, you are also more likely to stimulate either her clitoris or her G-spot which should bring her to orgasm.

I know you don’t need convincing that lasting longer in bed is a great idea. But please be aware that you can’t experience the kind of ecstatic wave you´ve always wanted if you rush headlong towards orgasm or try to hold yourself back.

You have to learn to RELAX into intense pleasure in order to go higher and higher.

Guys argue all the time about their confused idea that Tantra means not cumming. It doesn’t have to be that way or any way.

When you learn to go higher and higher, the simultaneous orgasm with your partner will be incredible. More importantly, when the ecstasy of the ride is greater than the brief spurt at the end, you may never want to cum again.

But won’t it be nice when it’s YOUR choice and you can decide to squirt or not as the mood strikes you?

The Disadvantages of When Your Penis is the Boss

Maybe it’s not needed anymore. Maybe the mere idea of lasting longer in bed and experiencing the pleasures of sex for HOURS and not mere minutes is enough to convince you that ‘cumming on command’ is better than cumming involuntarily.

But in the slight chance that you’re still not convinced, here’s what you LOSE cumming too quickly…

- Many women are multi-orgasmic because their energy isn’t depleted by orgasm. You don’t want to cum and be ‘finished’ and leave her yearning for more do you?

- Many men’s erections don’t spring back to life after cumming. For older men, it sometimes takes a couple days to recover their ability to stay hard for long. Sex therapists call this the “refractory period”. So having an orgasm without ejaculating lets you repeat lovemaking as quickly and often as you want.

- Many men release lots of energy when they cum which makes them distant, sleepy, and exhausted. Don’t cum and you stay energetic throughout the night!

- Many men lose the desire to continue making love when they blow their wad, suddenly losing that closeness and intimacy women crave. Some describe it as if a power switch was turned off.

- Many men shut down not just physically, but emotionally and mentally as well, cutting off the communion at multiple levels that this e-course can help you achieve.

The Benefits of ‘Cumming-on-Command’

And just to leave you with the positive aspects, by not cumming you can…

- Experience HOURS of orgasmic pleasure instead of just a few seconds of intense release.

- Undergo continuous ecstasy at its peak throughout your whole body.

- Stay connected with your partner longer, deeper, and at various levels.

- Keep your entire body energized. (The Taoists believe that retaining your semen is highly nourishing and the key to longevity!)

- Fully satisfy your partner’s often unfulfilled sexual desires.

- Satisfy multiple partners one after the other without a break.

- Promote health, vigor, and mental clarity by retaining your energy.

- Achieve bigger, stronger, longer-lasting orgasms when you finally choose to cum.

Wow! Just going over the list turns me on!

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Sarah

“Tantra does not require “believing in” something, or even “agreeing with” anything. There is nothing to accept on blind faith. The validity of Tantric teachings and practices lies in our own experience, our own inner process. We don’t have to take anyone’s word for anything. No one is asking us to believe anything. There is no dogma. The only way we can truly practice Tantra is to give up our concepts of what we think is happening and see what is actually happening. Through the process of Kundalini awakening we open up to inner or intuitive knowledge. The Shakti stimulates insights and breakthroughs. We practice Tantra and relate these practices to our day-to-day life. We become more fulfilled and powerful.” —– Gurumayi Chidvilasananda

Supreme Bliss Tantra

Supreme Bliss is the zenith of sexual ecstasy that transforms Kundalini, or orgasmic energy, into expanded consciousness. Tantra believes that all energy is life force energy. Supreme Bliss Tantra is the modern system of personal transformation based on the ancient Eastern spiritual path that uses Kundalini energy practices to…

- Deepen love, intimacy and ecstasy
- Extend lovemaking, and
- Create continuous full-body mind-altering Tantric Orgasms.

By opening your senses of the present moment, embracing all of life and all of your being, and focusing on pleasure as a divine gift, Supreme Bliss Tantra…

…heals your mind, body, and spirit, connects you passionately with your deeper self and your beloved, and immerses you deeply into the untold joys of sacred sexuality to reach cosmic peaks of pleasure making life an ecstatic journey in total communion with all that is. Wow! Can you see why I’m so jazzed about it?

Ancient Tradition Without Fear

The word Tantra comes from the roots “to expand, extend, and weave.” Tantrikas, adepts at Tantric practice, extend their awareness, heighten their sensitivity, expand their consciousness, and weave all the energies of life together to affirm joyous living.

Tantra emerged thousands of years ago in India, moving to China and Tibet as a grass-roots rebellion against the repressive hierarchical religions of the day. Back then, to even reach for enlightenment required lifetimes of denying desire and doing penance for past-life karma. Tantra opened the doors of spiritual evolution to everyone, regardless of their social status.

If you’re worried about what you’re getting yourself into, don’t. Tantra isn’t a religion based on faith, dogma, or right living. You don’t have to join, carry a card, cut your hair, or wear robes.

Since it’s not really a philosophy, it has no rules, qualifications, or requirements. There’s no code of behavior, no punishment for sin, and no pot of gold waiting for you in the afterlife at the end of the rainbow.

If you’re seeking inner peace, higher consciousness, a more fulfilling sex life with a new partner, or rekindling the earlier fire with a longtime mate, the erotic sacred wisdom of India and other Eastern cultures can help.

East Meets West

In the modern West, we stress the power of knowledge and thought. What you know determines what you can do. You measure success through hard work, accumulation material wealth, and caring for your relationship and family.

You reap physical pleasures, moments of happiness, and a high quality of living.

In the traditional East, the quality of inner life — not the process of living — was more important. Inner peace free from raging mind chatter was and is most important. Inner stillness free from the ravages of the pursuit of success and the fear of failure. Inner harmony free from relationship ups and downs by loving yourself most.

You reap Supreme Bliss by experiencing joy in every breath, every tree, every flower, every moment. Tantra is the bridge between the East and West — the path to the joy of the soul through full awareness of the physical world.

By learning to make love consciously, fully, spiritually, you transcend the outer school of hard knocks and grow into total acceptance of your inner self while living in the world.

In Tantra, sacred sex is a path, not an end.

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There are many tools a woman can use to increase her libido. There are many natural sex drive killers but if you understand these potential problems there are solutions. Below in this article we highlight problems and ways a woman can overcome these issues and increase her libido.

1. Relationship Issues

If there is any ill feeling towards a partner it has to be addressed. If an issue or conflict is left unresolved it will lead to a dampening of desire as can secrets or if you are emotionally upset for some reason.

When you are carrying negative feelings about a partner, your level of attraction for that person can wane dramatically an even in some severe cases never return. It can be as simple as a lack of appropriate hygiene, or something more complex, such as infidelity; whatever the case issues have to be addressed and dealt with before you can feel sexual again towards your partner.

Communication is the key to a good relationship. If you don’t talk to your partner, resentment will grow with you partner and eventually result in an all out conflict. If talking to one another doesn’t work then maybe it means trying a counsellor or therapist to move things in a positive direction.

If that doesn’t work then maybe it is time to see a sex therapist as there maybe problems that are deep rooted that even you are not aware of. I am afraid to say though if all else fails then it may just mean that a relationship has run its course and it is time to say goodbye. It maybe a sad moment but sex is an important part of your life and a relationship and you must enjoy it.

2. Body Complex

No one is ever one hundred percent satisfied with their own body as I have covered in other articles. It maybe those extra large love-handles or those bingo wings or maybe even an issue with your small breasts.

The truth is that to feel positive about sex then you must be happy with your own body. As I have said we all have imperfections (perceived or real) and it time to accept them and live with them. If you can’t then you may need to take some further action.

3. Getting Older

Age catches up with us all and does take a toll on our bodies. There is a loss of bone mass, susceptibility to illness, painful joints, grey hair, sagging flesh and the list goes on. Menopause and decreased testosterone (yes in women too) production are the reasons for decrease in libido but fear, anxiety and depression from aging can contribute too.

If you are going through the menopause, it is important that you understand the changes taking place in your own body. It may mean seeking out your doctor about treatment for the physical changes that are taking place and affecting the sex drive.

The use of Estrogens in any forms can increase blood flow to the vagina and increase arousal thus leading to increased desire. Hormone therapy that includes low dose androgens has been shown to be particularly effective at increasing low libido. There may even be something as easy as the use of lubricants to get an immediate effect if you are experiencing vaginal dryness.

4. Sexual Abuse

Those people that have been unfortunate to suffer sexual abuse can later then have a difficult time with physical intimacy. It is a natural reaction and it takes time and understanding for both the mind and boy to deal with these painful experiences, but there is little attention paid to our sexuality.

Please if this applies to you know that many people who have suffered sexual assault have gone on to have healthy and full sexual relationships. It takes time, patience, understanding and some counselling. This cannot be rushed and you must take your time and only become intimate when you are ready too! Never ever let anyone pressure you into something you feel uncomfortable about.

5. Medication

It is widely known that the effect of birth control pills (also when combined with oral contraceptives) leads to a lowered libido. The decreased androgen production or lowered testosterone levels can cause women to experience a lower libido and less vaginal lubrication.

There are other medications that also dampen desire such as tranquilisers, high blood pressure pills and mood stabilizer amongst many. It must also be noted that even mediation that isn’t anyway connected to sexual; arousal can have an adverse affect on sexual desire. When talking to your doctor about any new medication and finding that it may alter your libido it might be best to ask if there maybe a viable alternative.

Depression seems to be a part of modern life. If you are feeling down and cannot shake the feeling it may mean you have depression. If you feel this way then it maybe time to see you doctor. Depression will make many people listless, drowsy, sad, angry, upset and very emotional. Depression will have a very noticeable effect on libido. It is known that as many as seventy five percent of people with depression also suffer a lowered sex drive.

The very drugs that are used to treat depression (MAOI’s, SSRI’s and tricyclics) can also lead to sexual dysfunction, such as a delay in orgasm and lead to an adverse affect on the level of sexual desire.

There have been changes in the last few years that have given hope to people in this situation. There are drugs such as Viagra(r) with antidepressants. Then there may be the use of herbal remedies such a Ginkgo Bilboa, which is thought to help with lack of desire related to taking Paxil or other antidepressants. The there may also be Wellbutrin that has been shown to combat reduced sexual desire.

Please, though whatever you decide or look into always consult you doctor before any changing of medication or stopping your medications.

6. Medical Problems

There are many numbers of medical disorders that can lower libido such as a thyroid problem or hormone deficiency (especially in older people). A metabolic disorder; anything that adversely affects you metabolism (including an eating disorder, accident, trauma or illness) will obviously cause a lowered libido; it is also true to note that one in five American women have hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), more comely know as a low sex drive.

If you have ruled out all other reasons to why you have a low sex drive then consult you doctor. You may have a readily curable medical condition.

Conclusion

There isn’t such a thing as a normal libido we are all different and have different sex drives. If you feel frustrated by lack of sexual appetite, take it easy. . Your personal sense of normality is defined by how you feel about your sexuality and whether or not you’re happy with how you are expressing it.

If you are comfortable about your sexuality then congratulations; if however you feel that you may need a gentle push; then explore the remedies suggested here. There is though no miracle cure some of the suggestions here have worked for other people but may not work for you. It may just take time and patience. It may mean just going solo for a while with a sex toy or eating a piece of chocolate. Hey girls chocolates is an aphrodisiac after all!

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