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30
Jul

Oral Sex Secrets For A Great Female Orgasm…

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Pleasuring your partner is an important part of a great sex life. You definitely know that, right? Well, one of the best ways to pleasure her is by giving her a little selfless attention – that means doing something hot to make her feel amazing even when you’re not getting anything back . . . at least not at that moment.

female-oral-sex I’m talking about oral sex or, in this case, cunnilingus.

The good news is that oral sex can be amazingly pleasurable for your partner. The bad news is a lot of guys just don’t know what their doing and that ruins the experience for both of partner. But you’re not going to be one of those guys.

Let’s look at some pointers to improve your oral sex aptitude.

Oral sex is one of those things guys have to pretty much learn how to do on their own. It’s not like driving a car where they can ask their dad for advice and it’s not even like vaginal sex which you learn how to do from watching a couple of X-rated films. You’re pretty much on your own with this one so let’s look at three techniques you can use to become outstanding in the oral sex department.

First, you’ve got to know how to move your tongue. The best analogy to describe this is a cat or a dog drinking water from a bowl. When they’re lapping up that water, their tongue is going in and out of their mouths pretty fast, right? Well, that’s the same type of movement you’re trying to achieve. Short and fast is the way to turn up the heat and rev up her clitoris.

Of course, using just “lapping” techniques won’t necessarily win you a prize in bed; you’ve got to know how to spice things up. After you use the first technique for a little bit, mix it up and try a rotation technique. Instead of moving your tongue in and out, keep it in and moving it a circular motion. This motion works amazingly well with the clitoris (circular motion also does the trick in vaginal intercourse, too) and can sometimes be just what she needs to push her over the top.

Now I know some of these cunnilingus sessions can last a pretty long time and a man’s tongue can get pretty tired (we do appreciate the effort though!), so when you start wearing down, give your tongue a break and try humming instead. That’s right – I said humming. Pick any tune you want and hum away but the trick is to keep your face in position. The vibration from your humming will travel up through her vagina and stimulate her clitoris. Basically, you’re becoming her own special vibrator.

Sometimes, guys, you just can’t do it alone. Now I’m not suggesting you bring in a friend, but I am suggesting you pack along a special surprise in your pocket for her: a sex toy. You can choose almost any type of sex you want, but keep in mind one thing: Where am I going to use it? If you don’t mind sharing your tongue space with a vibrator or dildo – and many guys don’t – then any of those choices are fine. My suggestion though is to invest in a toy designed specifically of anal stimulation. Even though your woman may frown on anal intercourse (especially if she’s had a bad experience), the truth is that stimulation in that region – when done correctly – can be pretty intense and can even lead to G-spot orgasms! Plus, if you’re pleasuring her in one area and your “friend” is pleasuring her in another, then your partner is definitely going to be one happy lady, especially after a few minutes.

And you’re likely to be happy, too. A satisfied woman is very likely to turn right around and repay you for your efforts. Maybe with a little fellatio. After all, what man doesn’t love getting oral sex?

While we’re on the subject of oral sex though, I want to mention safety. I’m not trying to kill the mood but you’ll have a lot more fun if you’re protected than if you end up seriously regretting your actions a few months down the road if you know what I mean. While oral sex won’t cause pregnancy, you and your partner can still transmit diseases that way. It may not be romantic but you need to invest in dental dam which covers your teeth and tongue during the act so you don’t exchange bodily fluids during the act. Trust me, you’ll be thankful you did.

Now go out there and start pleasuring your woman with amazing cunnilingus . . . safely.

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29
Jul

Is Stress Killing Your Sex Life?

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Do you know what the biggest problem getting in the way of most couples’ sex lives is? You might be surprised by the answer.

It’s stress. Think about it. All day long you’re probably stressing about your job, you’re stressing about the traffic, you’re stressing about your finances, you’re stressing about the kids, then you go home and start stressing about whether you’ll be able to help your partner get off. With all that stress, it’s a miracle you can get an erection at all!

orgasm-stress Stress does a lot of damage to our bodies as you probably already know. But besides raising your blood pressure (not in a sexy way), it can also reduce your libido. And that’s not what you or your partner wants. Plus, if she’s feeling overwhelmed by the pressures of life, you’ll have a much harder time getting her to warm up and climax at all.

The combination is simply disappointing sex lives.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. By finding ways to reduce your stress levels (and your partner’s), you’ll be able to find more fulfillment in bed and I know that’s definitely something you’d want.

One way is to practice meditation. You don’t need to learn any complicated positions, although it wouldn’t hurt if you also want to become a little more flexible in the bedroom. All you really need to do is find a comfortable spot, close your eyes, and picture something very comforting. When I’m meditating, I always picture a garden of flowers because that helps me feel good. Don’t picture your significant other – while she may make you feel wonderful in lots of ways she’s also probably going to make you feel stressed.

Make sure you can really picture whatever your image is. Make it so real you can feel it, taste it, touch it, and smell it.

You should do this at least once a day for ten minutes or any time you feel particularly stressed. The best part is that you can use a similar exercise to help you get ready for the bedroom. Instead of visualizing something that relaxes you, picture yourself and your partner in the middle of some hot sex and imagine her screaming your name in pleasure. Picturing this will not only rev up your libido, it will also give you more confidence in the bedroom.

Another stress reliever is a warm bath or shower. I could soak for hours in a bubble bath, especially one filled with aromatherapy bubbles. Sure, most people think relaxing in the tub is just for girls but guys can enjoy soaking, too. Just lay back so most of your body is enveloped in the water and close your eyes. The water will feel like warm lips or hands moving softly over your body. It’s an incredibly soothing feeling.

Even better is taking a warm bubble bath with your partner. Both of you can strip naked and crawl under the bubbles with your bodies entwined under the water. You can either face each other or you can have her sit between your legs and lean back against your body. If you’re a smart man – and I know you are – you’ll choose the latter. Once you’re both relaxed, your hands can start doing some exploration under the bubbles: stroking her breasts, running your fingers along her inner thighs, even stimulating her clitoris a little with your finger or a waterproof vibrator. You could even use one of those shower head nozzles to direct water right onto her most sensitive areas if you have one handy. And don’t worry, if she’s half the woman you deserve she’ll return the favor by giving you some special ways of relaxing even more.

After you’ve enjoyed some stress relief in the bathtub, you’ll be ready to go even further in the bedroom. Don’t think about your performance. Don’t think about how long you need to last or anything like that. Concentrate instead on giving her all the pleasure you can. When she’s feeling amazing, you’re going to be feeling amazing.

The best part is that amazing sex and particularly sex that results in orgasms is also a great sex reliever. That means by practicing some of these tips and getting as much great sex from your partner as possible is going to help both of you be happier and healthier in bed, in your relationship, and in life.

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24
Jul

How Women’s Libido-Boosters Work

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Women have finally gotten their fair due in the category of all-natural sexual arousal and pleasure enhancers. Currently, there are dozens of such products on the market for men (not to mention several prescription meds that cater only to men), but only very recently have women’s products moved into consumer focus. It’s a booming segment of the natural supplement market that’s more popular than ever.

libido-orgasm However, the use of herbs and nutrients to enhance women’s sex drives and pleasure is nothing new. For many years, folk medicine and naturopathic healing have had a variety of natural and botanical ingredients in their arsenal of tools to combat women’s flagging sexuality due to fatigue, stress, dietary deficiency, aging, hormonal changes or emotional upset. What’s new now is the availability of specialized, pre-calibrated formulas in new standardized dosages using many of these time-honored ingredients.

The great news is that the formulas work — so well that women are buying them in record numbers and celebrating the results. The bad news? That the natural supplement market is easily infiltrated by fakes and poseurs, products that do nothing but cost as much as the real thing.

The wise consumer should first gain an understanding of how these products work, and what goes into a quality supplement, then make an informed choice to enjoy the best results.

What you’re looking for is a non-prescription, balanced formula that can be taken as a daily supplement without side effects or interference with birth control or other medications you might be taking. The specific formulation varies by manufacturer, however, all formulas worth purchasing are created in a cGMP pharmaceutical-grade facility, of top-quality ingredients. Here’s what else to look for: The ingredients in a good supplement individually will work to promote better blood flow and increased muscular relaxation, plus act on hormones for increased, more energetic sexual response. In addition, the hormone-balancing factors in the formula may combat the negative effects of menopause, such as night sweats and hot flashes, and may even balance mood and attitude before or during menopause. Taken together, in a blend that is thoughtfully created and precisely calibrated, the effects on the overall female reproductive system are overwhelmingly positive — from a healthier, more satisfying sex life to natural fertility.

With all the choices out there, it takes a diligent researcher to find out which are the effective formulas. One that meets all the critieria above is Satibo™, which in addition to being an effective and very popular libido-booster for women, is also provided by one of the top legitimate companies in sexual health improvement for men and women. Here’s a partial list of Satibo™’s ingredients, and a description of how each works specifically on the female reproductive system:

Chinese Wolfberry (Goji Berry) (Lycium Barbarum L.) - Chinese Wolfberry is grown in Asia (including the Himalaya) and parts of the USA . It reddens when ripe, and darkens with drying. It has been used for millennia in Asia for its medicinal properties, including combating diabetes, liver and kidney problems.

Job’s Tears (Coix Lacryma-Jobi) - Although Job’s Tears have been used as a food grain. It also has a long history within Chinese medicine, which is how it became an ingredient of Satibo. It’s medicinal uses include the treatment of warts and other skin conditions, gastrointestinal maladies, poor water flow throughout the body, and lung disorders.

Liquorice Root (Glycyrrhiza) - Liquorice can be used to treat a number of ailments including sore throats, heartburn, arthritis, and constipation. It’s use in Chinese herbal medicine is well established.

Gorgon Fruit (Euryalacea) - Gorgon Fruit is used for improving sexual ability and energy levels in the elderly as well helping to slow the aging process. It can also be used to treat premature ejaculation, nocturnal emissions, arthritis pain and frequent urination.

Lily (Lilium Candidum L.) - From the bulb of the Lily flower that is known for its medicinal properties. It has been used as a topical treatment for burns, pimples, or generic female complaints. Chinese herbalists also use it for treatment of coughs and insomnia.

Chinese Yam (Dioscorea Opposita) - Chinese Yam is traditionally used to promote the function of the spleen and/or stomach. It can also be used in the creation and proper function of body fluids and treating coughs.

Notice that the blend described above goes to work on the libido from multiple fronts: circulatory, hormonal, stress reduction, female-specific tonification and overall effects on the genitals. Other formulas may contain amino acids, vitamins, enzymes or various vegetable extracts. Though many of these ingredients are available individually from health food stores or herbal pharmacies, the prevailing wisdom today points to the superiority of formulas like this, that are pre-calibrated and blended to take the guesswork out of herbal extracts — not to mention the more economical approach of buying a complete tablet as opposed to a bewildering array of pills or tinctures that must be measured, mixed or calculated each day. Results vary for individual women, but most report positive effects after only about a week or two on the supplement. Unlike prescription meds, these natural supplements have no side effects and can be obtained without a prescription or costly doctor’s office visit. Because of their safety and efficacy, natural supplements are the number one choice today among women seeking to improve their libido and sexual pleasure.

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23
Jul

Hot Sex Starts With a Little Romance

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Men who truly amaze their partners in bed know a little secret: great sex doesn’t start in the bedroom. If you want to turn things up in the bedroom, then you need to set the stage in advance. And that means doing a little advance planning and putting together an incredible experience she’s not going to forget.

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First, you’ve got to be alone. Your partner may have sex in your bedroom with the door closed even when the kids are asleep in the next room but she’s not truly going to get into the moment when there’s a chance of waking them up or having them walk in. So your first job is to schedule some alone time with her. And that doesn’t just mean you’ve got to leave the kids somewhere else – that also means friends, parents, co-workers, everybody who could interfere in what you’ve got planned have to be out of the picture. If you’re thinking it’s impossible, just imagine how amazing the night is going to be with just the two of you alone enjoying each other with more abandon than you’ve ever imagined. I’m guessing you’ll find the motivation you need.

Second, create a romantic interlude for her. Women aren’t only seduced through their bodies. If you want to truly make all of her body come alive to your touch, then you have to start by turning her on mentally and that’s going to require a little romance.

Let’s look at two scenarios which could make the bedroom a much more fun place for the two of you tonight.

Idea #1

Start off by preparing a fabulous meal for her while she’s gone at work. If you’re not the world’s greatest cook, don’t worry. Cook whatever you know how to make – it’s not the meal itself but the idea of the meal that will work magic. Now when she’s on her way home, turn off all the lights and instead light a trail of candles which will lead her into the dining room. Have the table set with more candles. You can serve white or champagne but avoid any hard liquor because alcohol make release your inhabitations but it also dampens the performance for both partners and that’s definitely not how you want the evening to end.

Before you serve a delicious dessert, sneak up stairs and draw her a warm bubble bath. Surround the tub with lighted candles and lower the lights. Once she’s finished eating, lead her up the stairs and slowly undress her for the bath. Then give her a bath. Move slowly over her body, paying particular attention to all of her erogenous zones. Don’t concentrate too much on her breasts at first. Wait until she’s clearly getting exciting before you suds them or make your way between her thighs.

After the bath, towel her dry and start the foreplay. By now, she’s both mentally and physically prepared to enjoy a full evening of enjoying your body as much as you were enjoying hers.

Idea #2

If your partner is a little more adventurous, plan a romantic interlude that won’t end in the bedroom but somewhere even more erotic. Make reservations at her favorite restaurant and arrange to take her there as a surprise. Over dinner, slip away to the “bathroom” then call her cell phone. When she answers, use your deepest, sexiest voice to outline all of the ways you want to pleasure her for the evening. Be explicit. Women can be very easily stimulated this way because we have incredibly vivid imaginations, especially of the men we’re sleeping with. Don’t think she has spent long hours picturing the two of you in some pretty hot situations before.

After dinner, drive to somewhere secluded. Have a CD playing that sets the mood – you can either choose romantic ballads or something a little sexier depending on what helps turn her on the most. Now bring out your secret weapon: a battery-powered vibrator. Lean her seat back and slide the vibrator inside of her. All the while, whisper in her ear about what you’ve still got in store for her. Pretty soon, she’ll be practically (and maybe literally) begging you to come inside of her.

And that’s the moment you do exactly what she asks. If you can’t get comfortable in the car, get a room at the closest motel you can find and spend the rest of the night finding out just how many orgasms you’re both capable of having.

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21
Jul

Better Sex Through Naughty Toys

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Let me get rid of one of the biggest misconceptions guys have when it comes to sex and their partners. You know those sex toys she’s hiding in her nightstand? They don’t have to replace you. In fact, believe me, your woman would much rather have you inside her than any old piece of plastic. There’s plenty you can give her that she just can’t get from a dildo or a vibrator.

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Unfortunately, lots of guys end up viewing their partners’ sex toys (or sex toys, in general) as a threat and they miss out on a golden opportunity to give their women some intense pleasure by combining two of her favorite things: you and her sex toy. In lots of ways, this is the best threesome she could ever hope for and if you’re serious about becoming an even more amazing lover then now is the time to learn how to master the power of the sex toys.

First, let’s talk about your sex toy arsenal. If your partner doesn’t have any toys lying around or she has them so well hidden you’ve never seen them, then you’re going to need to find a good store where you can find some. Now I know this can be a little embarrassing if it’s your first time picking out dildos or cock rings, but remember getting rid of your inhibitions is an important step to taking your bedroom fun to a higher level. Of course, if you’re too nervous to shop in person, you’ll find plenty of great stores online which sell everything you need.

Now what exactly do you need? I would definitely suggest a vibrator. Dildos can be work, but you’ll find a vibrator is going to be more useful. You’ll probably want something small so it will be easier to handle. Make sure you also buy some high quality lubricant. You want the vibrator to slide inside of her easily without causing uncomfortable friction – that’s not a turn on at all.

Don’t hesitate to look around and pick out some other handy items, too. Cock rings are great if you want to be able to hold your erection longer and many of them have built-in vibrators which can increase the pleasure for both of you. Anal beads can be a great toy for both of you. Like a string of pearls, you simply put them inside your partner (or have her return the favor), then slowly pull them out. It’s a very sensitive area full of nerve endings and the gentle pressure from the beads feels amazing, especially if you use a little lubricant.

Once you have collected your arsenal of sex toys, you’ll need to know how to use them. In fact, you can use them at almost stage of your bedroom fun.

During foreplay, run the vibrator over her breasts or her inner thighs. The vibration will excite all of those sensitive nerves and will make her tremble with excitement for you. You could also use it to tease her a little by sliding inside her just a little then pulling it out again. When she begs you to go deeper (and she will!) you know it’s time to pull out the real thing.

Once you’re in the moment, a well-placed vibrator can almost guarantee that she’ll climax. The problem for many women is that it’s difficult for a man’s penis to hit her clitoris in just the right way to bring her to orgasm. Some women can have vaginal orgasms with just penetration, but don’t rely on that possibility. Clitoral orgasms are usually stronger and longer, so they are much more prized by your woman.

You can slide the vibrator inside her along with your penis or while you’re giving her oral sex. If you have a vibrator designed for the anus, you can have that in place during almost any type of penetration and it will be sending intense shock waves through the lower part of her body. You might even be lucky enough to hit her G-spot and send her to the moon with ecstasy!

After you’ve both climaxed, you don’t necessarily have to call it a day. Bring out the vibrator and use it to bring her to orgasm two, three, four, even five more times. When you can make her have multiple orgasms, you’ll definitely shoot right to the top of her list of the world’s greatest lovers.

Just remember to keep your sex toys clean. Never use them on different body parts or people without thoroughly cleaning them first. You don’t want to ruin all of the intense fun the two of you are going to share.

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17
Jul

Better Sex Through Imagination

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Hi! Sarah here… with another sensual tip!

Sometimes guys get a bad rap for having nothing on their minds but sex and let’s be honest that’s true in some cases, but if you want to heat things up in your bedroom than the more you’re thinking about getting in on with the partner waiting for you at home the hotter things are going to be between the sheets. And, if you can get HER thinking about what’s to come then you’re in for an awesome amount of fun.

female imaginationUnlike other animals, humans are lucky enough to have imaginations. We can live whole exciting adventures right inside our minds. And the best part is we can make them feel incredibly real. Think about all of those times you ended up masturbating as a teenager – what were you thinking about that got you so hot? A real girl probably didn’t have to be anywhere near you, and you could turned on, right? Well thank your very vivid imagination for that.

Maybe back then, an imagination wasn’t such a good thing, especially if your only outlet for gratification was yourself. But now that you’re all grown up, it’s a whole new ball game.

So here’s how your imagination is going to help you have unforgettable real sex with your partner tonight.

While you’re at work today, close your eyes when no one else is around. Now while your eyes are closed I want you to picture your partner undressing slowly in front of you. You can’t touch her, but she badly wants you to as she takes off each and every piece of clothing she has on then stretches out completely naked on the bed, the couch, the floor, the hood of your car – whatever location turns up your heat the highest.

If you don’t start feeling a physical reaction from that little fantasy, I’d be very surprised. But don’t dwell on it and do absolutely nothing about that heart pounding desire rushing through your body. Just fight it enough so you can do your work, but definitely don’t take matters into your own hands – if you know what I mean.

A few hours before you head home, close your eyes again. This time picture your partner and you acting out your hottest fantasy. Maybe she’s been speeding, and you’re the stern police office who needs to teach her a lesson. Maybe she’s a stranger you’ve just met in a smoky bar whose name you don’t even know. Maybe you catch her with another sexy woman, and they both ask you to join in. It doesn’t matter what fantasy you have. What matters is that you picture every single detail of that fantasy coming true from the moment you first touch her moist skin, to the second when you penetrate her body, and to those final moments of your climax. Picture it and feel it through your whole entire body.

As soon as you finish your fantasy, call her up on the phone wherever she is. Tell her in the most provocative way you can what you want to do to her when you get home. Describe how you want to touch her, what positions you want to try, and more. You don’t have to share the details of your fantasy with her but do share with her everything you can think of about the reality you want to share with her soon.

From the time you leave work until you reach home (or her house), don’t stop thinking about that fantasy but absolutely keep your hands off yourself. It’s going to be very hard to resist since you’re going to be incredibly horny by this time, but the pay off is going to be well worth all of your self-control.

When you see her, don’t hesitate. Just start doing exactly what you promised her on the phone. Depending on your partner, she may or may not already be ready for you. Some women fantasize about their men all day long, and your call may have been just enough to get her all heated up, too. If not, then now is the time to dazzle her with your incredible foreplay skills. But don’t forget to keep talking dirty to her and telling her how much you’ve been wanting her all day. That’s sure to get her just as hot as you are.

Then, well, then I think you know what to do next. If not, just think back to your earlier fantasy and follow its lead.

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